i don't wanna be the bad and harsh guy here but maybe i will :P (Only god can judge me :p)
If you want something just say it...Plain and simple. You wanna get married then don't expect the other to make a ''move'' share your feelings wait to listen what the other had to say and if it's an excuse you will get it easily ( if not probably you just don't want to accept and face the truth)
When i get into a relationship i just say a couple of things straight out. I know what i want and want the other to know too. ( I don't talk about small stuff like i prefer to sleep in the right corner :P ) but the important ones and i decide what to do after i hear the answers.
As far as it concerns the church as i am not a believer i don't care about that at all and if i choose to get married i will gladly do it there for the sake of my wife.
In plain and simple words as i mentioned again, although it may seem hard just tell the truth first-handed and express your feelings even if it is a small matter like '' i like that man/woman i saw on the road i just have to say it and whatever happens" to a more serious one like marriage. If you don't as you said long term you will get hurt way too much!