This world we live in is getting more of a cruel than kind. And if you are one generous person, then things are even worse. People will judge you for your innocence, and you will have to prove yourself regularly to make your place in the world. People will take you for granted and make you doubt your self-worth. People will make you look like a fool and as if you are an underachiever. And amidst all it, it becomes hard for you to survive well.
And that’s what this blog is all about. It is to reach people who think they are stuck like hell in this awful world and that the entire weight of the world is on their shoulders. It is for people who think they wasted their majority of the life being fair to other people and now feel cheated at this point in life.
It is for people who have the purest of souls and look to the world as one big family. It is for people who want to help others and do only good. It is for people who find it hard to maintain their goodness in the world amidst doing all the tasks they need to do. So, if you are one among them, here is the list of things you can do to survive in this seemingly cruel world.
1. Remove Toxic People from Your Life
If you are one kind person, initially, it even gets difficult for you to recognize that you are dealing with some toxic person. And, it is after long years, you get to know that all the while you have been used and emotionally manipulated. At that moment, you break and shatter down to pieces. You lose your self-esteem and all the confidence you built-in yourself over the years.
You hate yourself for loving the wrong person so unconditionally from all your heart. You regret your past mistakes and see no shorter way to overcome it all. You cry inside. You cry like hell day and night. Guilt –trips surround you from everywhere. You want to slap yourself hard. You experience an uneasy feeling, and there is something that bothers you inside and hinders your path to stable thoughts.
At that time, when you recognize that toxic person in your life, you must immediately look for ways to deal with them, either kick them out, set healthy boundaries, or say no to manipulation. Do, according to what best justifies your situation. But do it. It is when you remove toxic people from your life, you can live up to what is called a happier, healthier, and fulfilling life. Also, then you can peacefully survive in your life and the world.
2. Count On the Blessings in Your Life
To live a life less of chaos and press on in your journey in this cruel world, you must count on and appreciate the blessings in your life than complaining about what you do not have. When you embrace beautiful things in your life, happening around you, your heart fills with patience, peace, hope, happiness, and joy.
Hence, you must always express gratitude to Almighty for each second, beautiful moment, and blessing in your life. This way, you can also adjust to survive in a world that’s running after money, luxury, and the one which seeks happiness only in material possessions.
And as Og Mandino said,
“Count your blessings. Once you realize how valuable you are and how much you have going for you, the smiles will return, the sun will break out, the music will play, and you will finally be able to move forward the life that God intended for you with grace, strength, courage, and confidence.”
3. Help others
In this world, which only seems willing to take, show people that you are kind. Be a helping hand to someone in need. Keep an eye on charities, organizations, and some people that need help. However, if you can’t donate because you are studying and struggling to keep up with the expenses, no issue, you can also help with just one random act of kindness.
Offer seats to women, children, older people on the bus, pay for the person’s food standing behind you in the queue of the fast food. Accept and love everyone around you, and this way, it’ll be a lot simple to live and love on this planet.
4. Surround yourself with people who care and love you
In this world, always trying to find opportunities to put you down in life and steal your happiness, surrounding yourself with people who love and care for you will boost your stamina and energy levels, give you confidence, motivation, enthusiasm, and willingness to live.
So, eliminate toxic people from your life from all sides. You don’t need any more negativity from any person or anything else in the world. Enjoy life as much as you can around people you love, laugh with them, have fun with them, hang out, and enable love to bury the fear, anxiety, sadness, or anger you feel. Above all, love does win over hate!
5. Learn to Give as Minimum Fucks as Possible
In this world where the majority of the people do not mind their own business and regularly look for ways to interfere in the lives of others, learn to give as minimum fucks as possible, and ignore them. You cannot shut everybody’s mouth up, prove your point, react to claims, blames, so there is no better way to ignore them and move on with your life as you want.
Just move on even if nobody’s with you at the moment, work on only yourself, your self-time, and mind your own business. It is because at this time if you’ll do fair to people, the jealous, clever, and insecure ones will doubt your capabilities. And there are relatives and your close ones in the case you do unfair or nothing at all.
6. Put Your Thoughts in a Clear Manner and Listen to Others
In this world, people either hear arguments or do not hear at all. So, it more likely that people will misinterpret you for not what you said about them but for what they heard from other people. Hence, you must be direct and clear with your words and actions, because if you will convey it right from the start, less chaos in the relationships and less difficulty dealing with people you will have in the long run.
7. Learn to Say No
Well, you are not in the world to make others happy and be in their good books. No. You do not have to keep your happiness aside and please everybody every time. No. You do have your privacy, personal space, self-respect, and life. Yes. So, stop prioritizing the work and happiness of others over yours.
Think of yourself first and learn to say no. Saying no keeps you feeling empowered while still maintaining your relationship with others, allowing you to establish healthy boundaries, as well even allowing others to have clarity on what they can expect from you.
8. Be Adaptive to Changes
To survive in this world, you need to adapt to changes. Embrace and be open to changes in your life. Accept the fact that change is a crucial part of life. Change is what gives direction to your lives, no doubts, just fuels, and nails it. There cannot be any good life without change. Though most of us want to enjoy a certain amount of stability in our lives, if we accept change as our friend than something that we must avoid, in that case, we may experience less stress, and life will become much easier.
And as the famous scientist Charles Darwin said,
“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change.”
In the process of evolution, the strongest and the intelligent do not survive. And who can survive is the one adaptive to changes.
To Sum It Up..
The world would have been a much better place if the people would not be judgmental and instead help each other and understand each other’s problems. But the thing is, the world today is the opposite of what it should have been, it is more of a cruel and majority people here look for advantage in relationships instead of helping and lifting each other in tough times.
However, here, only people are not wrong, we cannot blame them only, everybody’s lives today are so busy, everyone has so much to do that no one has got time to humanity. Being human is complicated in today’s world. So, what we can do is, still, make an effort whatsoever way possible, in whatsoever amount possible, to be a helping hand to the people in need. We can make an effort to move on with the world no matter how tough life gets. We can make an effort to maintain our goodness in the world amidst this cruel world.
And with all these little efforts, we can make it survive well in this cruel world. Yes, this way, we sure can make it survive in this cruel world, without even losing ourselves, without losing the human in us!