Contrary to popular opinion, I really think REAL MEN CRY!
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You have every right to disagree with me on this but I will drop my reasons anyway.
Often times I hear mothers tell their son, be a man don't cry, don't show your emotions, people will think you are weak. If u cry the ladies will laugh at you. They might call you a weakling etc.
But personally, I think these claims are false. Like I mean very very wrong.
Because of this, we end up bringing up hardened men. We end up grooming monsters. We end up training men who think that their greatest strength lie in their ability to hold back tears.
We end up bringing up weak men in actual fact.
A strong man to me is that man who is not afraid to admit his weaknesses. He is that man that has realized that he is human and can do nothing about it. He is that man that has a relationship with his environment and can permit himself to weep when things go wrong.
A strong man is compassionate. He cries when things go wrong and he does his best to make them right.
Don't get me wrong, when I say cry, I don't mean yelling out like a baby who was deprived of sweet and chocolates.
When I said cry, I meant be compassionate, let out some tears if that makes you feel better, lean on a shoulder and cry out loud if you can and decide to do something about the situation.
Don't be that coward who all in the name of being strong is so scared to observe his environment, so scared of admitting his weaknesses and chooses to hide behind the cliche- real men don't cry.
Feel free to Cry man... I got u okay?
Most men do cry actually. I guess we just prefer to do it in secret. Crying out in the open requires a lot of boldness many us don't possess. Also, like you said, not just our mommas, but society has ingrained it to us that a man shouldn't cry. So, don't blame us for wanting to look strong and becoming nearly monstrous in the process. It really is part of socialisation and this stereotype must be done away with. I hope mothers seeing this would play a part in salvaging this generation of men.
Nice post though
Thanks Aj. Let us refuse to conform to the society on this. Let's bring up real men t
Brilliant!!
I think we ought not to put pressure on men to cry, as it will only create a dichotomous, yet still problematic result to putting pressure on men not to cry. Men ought to just be men, and that ought to come with no expectations.
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Thanks. I just did the same
nice one :) x
We do cry but most times we like to form boss
Lol. Yes you are right
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I think the expression simply means that no matter how complex your situation is, a real man will always make a plan and find a way out. They shouldn't give up easily.
In one of our native languages in Zimbabwe (Shona) they say 'kufa kwemurume kubuda ura' which when translated means; a real man only dies when gutted and disemboweled
When you make a plan to get out of your situation, there's no need anymore to cry, so 'real men dot cry'
Hmmmm.... You are entitled to your opinion you know