I agree, we should have our own opinions to form our own values. And one of those values should probably involve not making people feel like crap for their stupid decisions. Ha. I have friends that live the lifestyle mentioned in this post, and I find it distasteful, but friends we are anyway, with no ridiculing. Friendship is important. Maybe some of my ideas will rub off, or maybe I can just collect data to solidify my thoughts on our differences. And then I can come here and let off some steam :)
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I used to have friends... but then I judged them all out of existence.
No, not really. I still have friends, and if I have any judgments about them I keep them to myself unless I'm worried about someone losing a body part. Admittedly, though, most of the friends who live a lifestyle I would judge hard have faded away and we're only really facebook friends anymore. That either makes me shallow or very, very deep.
I would imagine you have good bonds with your judgeable buddies, otherwise you would probably let them fade as well. Really, everyone is judgeable, anyway, said the lady with the crow on her head that takes her dog everywhere.
I think as far as the looser link relationships, rather than tight bonds, with people we find difficulty in not judging are a life phase thing. For instance, it just makes sense to be friendly with one of the moms I see constantly at karate, where I spend many hours every week. I know we will never be close because of these differences, but it makes her happy to have companionship...and it pushes me out of my comfort zone somewhat. I think parenting results in quite a few of these sorts of relationships, and they will fade away when the kids are older. I imagine there are other phases like this too. I could see being an old lady in a nursing home and being like "well, what do I really have to work with here?" Ha.
That's a super good point with the parenting thing. Definitely not an aspect of my life that I have to worry about. And, really, as a massage therapist, I don't spend much time with coworkers or colleagues, either. But it is nice to have good rapport with people you see on a regular basis. Especially, I would imagine, if your kids are friends.
LOL!