This is very interesting one dear one. Never knew you guys go through tough time as this in choosing your women.
But I feel you should go for one that support you but you should be willing to support her too. Crytos might not be the way for everyone though. So its good you follow your heart as well and make good choice as we are talking about someone you are about to spend the rest of your life with.
I really wish you well and pray you find your better half.