Good post!
I think that society is an emergent phenomenon, the result of constant negotiations and adjustments between its moving parts, which are individuals.
But -- humans don't live forever. So the question is -- how do we perpetuate a stable society when its moving parts are constantly in the process of being disassembled and renewed? Society has a process by which it matures children into adults, such that not only is society reactive to what its individuals do, but society also has an effect on the individuals themselves. Society is a teaching device for how to cooperate and co-exist with other individuals.
The problem with the world view today is that we forget that this is a two way street. Humans have to adjust to reality and society just like society has to adjust to them. And our focus on protecting people from ever having bad outcomes has effectively severed the link that teaches people how to adjust to society. The feedback loop as been severed, and the result is an uncontrolled explosion of people demanding that society adjust to them. Hence "safe spaces."
The consequence of this distorted society is that juveniles are never maturing into adults, and a larger and larger portion of our population are emotionally juvenile although physically and chronologically adult. They never grow up.
As I've mentioned in other posts, I think humans are like yeast in beer. Yeast secrete alcohol as a byproduct of eating sugar, and in a closed container they eventually create so much alcohol that they make it toxic for themselves to live. That's why beer and wine can't get much past 20 proof before they kill themselves.
Humans create bureaucracy and urban legends as a byproduct of our problem solving brains. But in a closed container, this eventually reaches such toxically high levels that people stop maturing and growing and society grinds to a halt.
meep