Hindsight is always 20/20. It's too easy for people to observe our situations and backseat drive our lives, the same as I could claim to fly a jet in real life, having played some video games with flying in it.
Sometimes the best thing you can do for someone struggling with anything is to let them know they're understood and loved - simple as that. It doesn't always have to be about fixing things. And with that said, much love to you! I don't think we've had the pleasure of meeting here yet but my Discord DM is always open if you need to vent!