"The Stray Cats of Marrakesh" by Sofiya Nuber is licensed under CC BY-NC 4.0
Loving ourselves is the first principle of everything about our lives. Without our love for ourselves, it is hard to love others or to give, or even to achieve, what we desire. You may think self-love is selfish, but you can not love others if you do not love yourself. Seeing goodness in ourselves is the only way to see good in others.
One of the biggest lies you hear from people is: "You upset me", "I was sad", "You frustrated me," or that you caused him any other feeling. If you notice your emotions in your relationships with others, you will discover that the source of your feeling of misery, happiness, or reassurance, for example, is not the behavior of others, but how you react to their behavior and how you accept it. When your reaction to someone's bad behavior is anger, resistance, or withdrawal, you end up feeling depressed, tense, and anxious. At a deeper level, their behavior may cause you to feel sad, lonely, or wounded, but as adults we can learn how to control these painful feelings. Know that your feelings emanate from within you, not from the world around you. For example, if you are upset about something your friend has done, it is your duty to ask yourself first if you really want to choose anger as a reaction to what your friend has made. If the answer is "No," ask yourself if your anger is justified, for example: "Am I really angry at my friend's behavior or am I angry at something else and self-effacing about this friend's face?" If the answer is that you are angry with someone or something else, you need to study your feelings before you allow them to explode in the face of your friend. If you discover that you are really angry with your friend, you have two solutions: either scream at him or be gentle and express your anger calmly and gently and tell your friend that you have been disturbed by his behavior, and the decision comes back to you in choosing your reaction, but always remember that your behavior expresses you.
Do not allow others to manipulate your feelings. Get up in the morning and decide to enjoy your day.
These are words of the day!!! =) thank you for sharing.
You're welcome freind 👐
Nice words for selfcontrol learning, we must certainly be careful about how we react on what people say or do so that we can live peacefuly and happy.
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