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Instead of wallowing in self-pity I made the choice to channel my frustrations and negativity into something productive and energizing. My wife and I had a disagreement about some things so I decided to get out of the house to bask in the beauty of the day.
Hello basketball. I missed you. I have been keeping up with my workouts but until this recent hoop session I hadn't played ball in about 3 weeks. This was exactly what I needed. One thing that really pushed me to make a move to go play was a post by @wakkylyon about letting today's flames lead you to tomorrow's fire. It's a post I highly recommend for anyone needing to channel negative energy into good vibes.
When you follow your energy and do what excites you, things happen. You enter the flow. When I was burned out and depressed I would do nothing to help myself get out of the dumps. Now I have learned to harness that dark matter and transform it into a masterpiece for others to gain inspiration from. For me this is how I free my mind and decompress.
Please feel free to share photos or videos of you in your zone. Shalom.
What do you do to pull yourself out of a low place?
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@wakkylyon, thank you. That post is very powerful. I had to go back the third time to read...
@humanearl, i totally totally relate to this. In fact, i think every body who's read this post totally relates to it. When i say every body relates to your story, i do not mean everybody in those instances like/similar to what you found yourself, has channelled their energy positively as a reaction to aggression too(like you did). Fortunately, to emphasize this point, there is a post by @rok-sivante i read some couple of days ago. Here is the link in case you wanna check it out https://steemit.com/creation/@rok-sivante/the-creation-story.
He talked about "creation" and "destruction"...
Stating that we're all creative in one way or the other. If we do not make use of the energy positively in one way, definitely in the other way, we will be destructive. In your case, you decided to channel the anger and aggression energy into playing basketball...what a perfect way to vent! Instead of giving in, you made anger give in. I admire your strength. This is something many men need to learn, like @remelsy, you too can roll out a course on this one in particular. Or better still you can make a completely different blog for it, because seriously, the human race needs to learn.
I have seen uncountable cases of domestic abuse on wives because their spouses couldn't control and manage their anger. These wives sometimes are at fault, but there are always better ways to vent than hitting the hell outta them(wives). When i see situations like this, i first think of the man to be an " illiterate"- i think this better informs why i suggested you make a blog for this. By doing so, other members can also get to post about their experiences, form a bond, get and give advice, etc etc.. Of course everybody gets angry at one point or the other, but the most important part is basically how you decide to react to that emotion...do you get creative or destructive?
Managing anger in a positive way is an art, many people need to learn.
Personally, i have been pissed a lot of times and i have reacted badly a lot of times too. Sometime last year something changed my mentality 360. I have an app-Snaptube, i can watch and download thousands of good stuff anytime i want. You basically find videos on how to make almost everything there, from anything to everything- foods, snacks, cakes, drinks, oils, fashion designs, decorations, soaps, creams, dyes, hair styles, make over, shoes, bags, beaded jewelries, EVERYTHING! So sometimes when i'm angry, my snaptube is my saving grace. I check videos on how to make some snacks and easy foods using ripe plantain,banana,etc (i love love love working with these two a lot), or a new type of cake, or cookies, or beaded neck pieces, etc.
If i don't wanna be in the kitchen, i try to go back to learning a language. That's always my second option. I get the videos from snaptube, then start work immediately. I have come to find out this even makes my brain excited and i can't think of something else at that moment....even if it is for 5mins.
At other times, i google some Bible portions on this and educate myself accordingly, i look up similar cases online, and I can testify that these are sure therapies for anger control.
@humanearl with what you did here, i can say that you, my friend, are a wise man. I hope you guys are cool with each other now yeah?
Thank you for sharing...Jah bless!
You know , I am happy that along the line you admited to the fact that sometimes women are at fault . But from my understanding of physics as an engineer , Newton's Third Law of motion says that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. And for an effect to be avoided or removed, we have to focus on the cause.
Now instead of channeling our energy on calling men who beat their wives illitrates how about talking to the women to stop provoking their husbands. When has provoking anyone to anger been a num? Even the Bible said...do not put the lord your God to test.
Why would anyone consciously provike another and expect the person to turn a blind eye and act like nothing happened. Isn't that cruelty? It's a different thing if you guys are having an argument and then because he feels he is the man, he hits you ...that's very bad. But most women these days would consciously provike their husbands to anger by calling him all sorts of names and some even go to the extent of slapping their husbands but expect him not to get angry...Isn't that abuse on its own ?
We need to channel our energy on educating the women on how to control their emotions. Anger is emotional as well and if you women can't control you emotions when you get angry, please do not call men who can't control theirs illitrates...that's being bias and a feminist.
I didn't wanna concentrate my time and energy on the "cause" of anger because i didn't wanna deviate from the main topic here....talking about causal effects of anger would mean me making a totally different post under another post, that was why...and i know you have read the post before now. If you haven't well, what exactly does this mean to you??
"Instead of wallowing in self-pity I made the choice to channel my frustrations and negativity into something productive and energizing. My wife and I had a disagreement about some things so I decided to get out of the house to bask in the beauty of the day"
@humanearl had a disagreement with the wife(we don't know who was to blame for that), but what was more important right at that point was how he reacted to it.
Personally, i have been pissed a lot of times and i have reacted badly a lot of times too. Sometime last year "something" changed my mentality 360...you remember i said this too. This totally suggests i got some knowledge about something i didn't know before, and from that time, my mentality changed. So when you saw "illiterate" in my comment, you should not have come off totally defensive and offended, except of course you feel some pinch of guilt about being "illiterate" to anger control.
I understand your point, but i would have given this more concern if you had asked what exactly i meant by seeing the men who can't vent anger differently except by hitting their wives as "illiterates"...other than circling round to the feminist word. When you see words like " illiterate" next time, try to get a better understanding of what that person actually means, especially if it wasn't used for the general meaning. I could be musically illiterate as the case may have been, you could be an illiterate for not knowing how best to control and manage anger in more positive ways other than destruction.
Women and men are all human beings with emotions. And it is rightly said, you are allowed to get angry, but not to stay angry. That doesn't in anyway eliminate the fact that women could be causal factors of anger.
But if you @sistem or @humanearl makes a post about women's roles in being causal factors of anger, then i would give you my opinions 100%.
@slimsieris Oh yes we are great now. It was just that day that I needed to get out of the situation. I also love how you mentioned being a creator or destroyer. That is something to think about. At least you found your way to channel your emotions into something other than destroying.
@sistem Emotional abuse is very real. I did not do a good job of communicating to my wife how I felt at the time. My wife and I do our best to communicate with one another. This helps to alleviate alot of "he said" "she said" type of stuff. YOu can never communicate enough. It takes alot of work to maintain the lines of communication.
@humanearl THANK YOU!
First, i admire that to prevent further friction, you decided to take fresh air. Games and sports are therapeutic, most times the perfect way to unwind too..
Usually, i sing or listen to pop while going for a walk when tensed, or assume a fresh mental phase. Recently, when that happens, i just steem.. No more time spent to promote bitterness.. I sky rocket the price of unhappiness and make it too expensive for me so i can't afford it. I think it's beautiful that you decided to share this... Looks like you played with a different energy today, lol....
Thanks for referring to that post again, it stuns me too. I'm happy about the effect it's having on people, and i'm grateful once again to you for giving it more visibility.
Whatever you do, i hope you stay happy. Cheers!
@wakkylyon, that post was EVERYTHING! keep the fire burning..
To me basketball is exactly that. Therapeutic. I like how you choose to write when you need to channel the energy into something else. That's a great thing to do as well.
I still think about what you wrote. I loved every bit of it.
The encouragement you constantly give to me is priceless. Thank you!
Good to see you enriching your mind and body with renewed energy and enthusiasm. Work out is really a wonderful way to keep stress away. It makes blood circulation fast and more oxygen in pumped in to release all the negative accumulated energy.
The best thing we can give to ourselves is protecting our mind and body with strength and that comes only burning extra calories. Trying meditation and walking to a serene and calm place is also a way to stay positive and get out of negative quagmire.
I really appreciate @wakkylyon for her amazing blog that gave you inspiration to take some time to delete negative emotions. When I am depressed, I usually listen a good music to stay safe from harmful effects of anger and negative energy.
Thank you @humanearl for sharing a beautiful way to be happy and healthy.
I need to pick back up with my meditations. It really helped me alot. I've used an app call headspace before.
For me, taking a walk in nature clears my negative energy. Taking time to enjoy the beauty of the flowers, birds, dogs, cats, rabbits and squirrels along the way...we have black squirrels here and they are beautiful. I appreciate the beauty of the Rocky Mountains in the west. Enjoy the clouds floating overhead and make shapes out of them. And then walk over to the field and see if any antelope have come out to play. Commune with all of them and I am so grateful to have them in my life.
This therapy is highly recommended. Thank you @sparklytraveler
There's something about being in nature that is so therapeutic. That's pretty much my favorite way of decompressing.
Black squirrels? Interesting and cool at the same time. I would love to visit Colorado. We are thinking of planning a trip there in May.
There is always a way out. There is always a solution. We were not put on this earth to be miserable. We were put here to be happy, and create everything we want. Yeah, there are challenges and sometimes things don't go right. We each came to explore certain lessons that may not always be so pleasant to our human minds But, the overall gist is happiness.
Fully admit you hate everything and why you hate it
In effort to protect ourselves, and minimize our pain, we get really good at denying the true depth of our feelings, or examining too deeply why we are unhappy with our life.
Let yourself really feel your feelings. Cry, scream, punch a pillow, whatever. Don't suppress it anymore. This can be pretty intense and you might scare yourself a bit, but just let it rip. No one else has to know about it, it's just you.
Think about what you want without censoring and judging
Take a moment to sit quietly and calm your mind. Think about your life to be like.
These are the lessons that give you the real happiness of life.
The key is to channel the negative into a positive activity. The longer we sit with negativity the more down we get. I've gotten much better at this. Thanks.
This in no particular order but when I encounter negative thoughts I
Actually right now I am in the midst of developing a course to help people achieve their goals using 4 techniques
(Emotional Detachment, Affirmations, Visualization & Concentration) once I have enough followers I will see if it helps people deal with negative people/situations. It’s partially based off of stoic philosophy and new age principles.
@humanearl keep going, man your one of my favorite steemians.
@remelsy please do well to keep me posted. I would love to take up that course.
Will do I’m thinking of it being a weekly series and for a set amount of time.
I'm all in, and i've followed you. Please just keep me posted. I'm sure i'll have a couple of steemians around who'd wanna take up too. Good luck Sir
You have a great idea. I love seeing people who want others to do well and uplift themselves.
Les Brown is a powerful speaker.
To withdraw from a low place, I will continue to rise and try to get out of the place that can not make us free to move, and continue to rise to reach the goal ..
I love that attitude.
Thank you @humanearl
My personal ways of getting rid of negative energy is taking the time to meditate for a couple minutes. Just focusing on your breath is doing wonders for me when I'm not focused or motivated. Reading is also a great means of turning negativity into something positive.
I need to pick my meditations back up again. When I did it, it helped me so much. Thanks for the input.
Yeah it's true. Another article of yours @humanearl that I learn. Mostly I can't concentrate whenever negative energy affects me. Thank you so much for sharing .. Keep inspiring others! 😇
I love to inspire and uplift others. Glad you like this.
I always listen to loud brutal savage music to deal with anger and frustration, the gym is also a very good way to vent.
Sharing what annoys you is also a good way to vent, I think that is why most people complain after small talk, they want to talk and vent with somebody that understands them.
I cannot stand small talk. I'd rather have much more in depth convos. I also love listening to others.
Same here, but I talk a lot with the right people, however, I cannot do that for a long time.
very nice post @humanearl, I really like to read your article, because your article can be a new knowledge for me. If we have problems in the family, and there is a misunderstanding among our wives, it's better to be temporarily better to get out of the house first. Because if we are still at home continue, there will be big problems with our wife, but after our wife calm, then we go home again. Because we better just give in to women and hold our emotions, let our homes always be peaceful and happy. thank you.
Golden! You know just how it works bro
Yepp. Better to get out for a while to cool than to sit and simmer.
@humanearl,
I remember how basketball helped you to reduce the stress level! And also it made you more active and your power and energy reborn with this great sport!
Cheers~
It had been a while but with my wife's new schedule I am able to squeeze this back into my regimen.
Dealing with frustration is a pain in the ass and it makes you ineffective. It will also cloud your mind and cannot think straight. The negative energy is there. So in order you are not consume by this frustration and negative energy, you must channel it into a positive one. What I always do is to take a long walk outside with my camera or sometimes I clean the house and wash the dishes .. yup you heard it, washing the dishes. But I like what @humanearl did, playing basketball. But don't have a basketball court near my place so no basketball for me :)
I know the clouded mind feeling all too well. Much better at finding outlets now though. Getting outside and walking or working out is the best.
For me, this topic is also relevant now. Sometimes there are conflicts. The main thing I realized is that you can not bring the conflict to the boiling point.
First of all, you need to find a lesson that helps you relax. Sometimes it is useful to "turn off" thoughts and enjoy the silence.
Any energy requires an exit. Therefore, sublimation is the only true solution. For example, I can spend time in the garage working on a project. Sometimes I like to be outdoors. Walk in the evening down the street listening to music or sounds that surround me. In summer swimming is excellent. I like to swim this exercise is useful for the body and brain.
The most important thing is to spend energy for good. You can not break on close people. The choice made in anger is not possible to fix.
From your photos, you can see that you live in a small city. Right?
You are so right. I have gotten much better at channeling negative energy into positive activities. Yes there's about 70,000 people here.
@humanearl - Sir there is a local saying... Arguments of husband & wife is valid until the next cook... I think it's valid to all of us... :) To deduct that angry & negative feelings you found a nice way Sir... Nice you decided to share your experience Sir... It's very useful thing for all of us...
+W+
I hope this can help others. My wife and I are doing really good. I just needed to get out the house that day and clear my mind.
I cook food that is something challenging,though I'm not a that good at it but somehow I manage to cook something likable,whenever I feel I'm surrounded by negativity I do use practice to burn off my anger against negativity.
Whatever works for you. We are all different and there are so many ways we can challenge ourselves.
i just focus on my positives at that time when i am in low and keep believing myself i am better at it
Self confidence and beliefs makes a big difference in moving forward. YOu will do well.
Best thing to do @humanearl. For me I do listen to inspirational music, draw watch funny movies, that is how i overcome negativity. And never ever forget to pray, that is the most important thing to do.
Prayer helps. I've learned to just tell God what I'm feeling.
Sports was a supporter of the motion of the body, which
makes the blood flow smoothly and eliminate power stress.
I do sports at least once a week.
I felt relieved and morale when waking up in the morning.
thanks @humanearl
Good for you! It works.
The law of physics states that energy can neither be created nor destroyed but transformed from one form to another. This hold for all forms of energy so its better to transform a negative energy into something positive. Have a good day
Head nod. I agree.
First thing I do is think and considered that that negativity is a challenge then pray to ask for guidance.
Prayer is so key. It works.
You are right. It is a best weapon
To clear negative energy, try this 3 -step
Tough but doable.
Wow!it is a very important information.It is important for energetic mind to take action and for being successful.
There's power in action.
Unfortunately, I wasn't in a state of activity when I took this shot. I only thought to myself that its been a long time I took a selfie shot(s) of myself. You wouldn't believe I shot that photograph on getting into a cooler space after have spent a few hours on trying to sort a few things outdoor here at my ends.
It is only to search out ourselves to discover what will help ease an emotional/mental stress when it arises.
Shalom!
I'm not a fan of the selfie although my face is on my videos all the time.
interesting post @humanearl
It used to say his dreams of becoming a professional basketball player, but his time walking along the ideals it disappear, but now when I look at basketball, I want to feel something out in me. ..
Thank you for sharing @humanearl
Play for fun even if you don't play professionally.
Explore more to find something that fight negativity. Im not a sporty one but i know there are lots out there that can bust our positive energy. Thank you for the share.
No problem. Thanks for the input.
very good information I will resteem your information to my blog.
Thanks for this!
Basketball is a very prestigious sports, whether you're a basketball player @humanearl??
I am new to steemit and now I follow you ...
Thanks for the follow. I just play for fun and relaxation.
@humanearl, I looked @wakkylyon post as you told here. Yep...It's perfect to follow everyone. She every-time provided steemit via valuable blogs. I return back to your main topic. Yep..Every time we need follow up our energy. It has more power and strength. Always try do productivity. You’re down. It happens. It’s not your fault, you’re not a bad person, and telling yourself to snap out of it won’t make your mood lift. Less moods are just great at framing everything in the worst possible light. Catch these thoughts and reframe them with less dramatic and more likely explanations.The single best thing you can do for your mood is to get up and get some exercise. That needn’t mean a full on workout. We can search many things around society. You decide what's best things want to do. Then You can do brightness your life without any trouble.
I still think of her post. It was amazingly written.
I enjoyed every bit of her article... I'm proud of you @wakkylyon
Thanks @dongentle2. You taught me how.
Thanks alot for taking the time to read it.
I liked the way that you avoided more confusion and further damage with your wife and taken out the negative energy outside of your house and used it in other ways to make it go out !
Will try that method buddy !
You won't regret you did...i know for sure
Yes as husband and wife you won't always see things the same way. That's part of it. I hope it works out for you man.
Thanks buddy !I sure hope so my man !
wow very nice post you are always strong in bosket training because I think the basket exercise is important tired. thanks for sharing
No problem. Thanks for stopping by.
wow very nice steemit post
Another Great one!!
best one <3
Your writing looks good, well written.
OH MAN. I WANNA PLAY BALL WITH YOU. HAHA. This is my team. Dentistry Basketball man.
Yall play every week?
Yes man. This was our intramurals in school and we are 1st place.