Yup I changed her title 'cuz I feel that her boyfriend really believes this about her. My friends have talked about this post non-stop, so I wanna write about it. It's a hot topic too - are sexually adventurous people slutty?
Their Insecurity Is NOT Our Problem
We all have slept with others and it ain't just boys or girls. It's all of us, some more than others amirite? Her boyfriend felt angry about how many people she had been with but admitted he had been with some too. I feel like her number was bigger and he felt insecure about this even though it didn't matter. You aren't your number anymore than I'm my number and it doesn't impact your current relationship unless you bring it in. I've felt insecure before about being compared to others until I realized that I was the guilty party. If you've felt insecure, no worries!
This comment on the article -
He was probably intimidated that she was much more experienced than he was.
Exactly!!!
Look, some of us want to experiment as well in other "ways" - if you catch me. An insecure partner is going to be so vanilla. I ain't hating on vanilla types, but you gotta find another vanilla; you can't chase someone who likes to be adventurous. Aint' gonna work.
Do You Want A Liar?
Do you want them to lie to you so you feel better? Feeling insecure and angry is only begging your partner to lie to you. What do you prefer? Honesty and openness, or deceit and no intimacy? My friends feel they have this problem too - if they tell the truth, they're in trouble; if they lie, they're rewarded. But if they lie, they're not in a relationship anymore - rather it's just an acting job. Can we be in relationships where we lie all the time? It his healthy? I don't feel it is!!!
He's prob had a lot of sex
Is He or She Hot?
Hot people have a lot of sex. If your partner is hot chances are that they've had a lot of sex and with different people. If you want someone who hasn't had sex, find someone who no one would want to have sex with and there ya' go! Why would anyone sacrifice having fun for a person who's threatened by something so small? Also, why am I gonna wait until I'm 25 to hook up when I might not even find someone then? One of my close friends is 32 and she's still a virgin and regrets it everyday. She thought she'd be married by now, but she probably be single for life.
YOU Be Honest
You feel you like someone and your attracted to 'em - cool! But if you're just gonna judge them for hooking up with a lot of people, why don't you tell them that on day one. Save 'em and you some time guys. I do the same. I just assume they've hooked up with a few hundred people, lol. Makes it more honest from the beginning and it kills my insecurities.
