There's nothing wrong with having goals and stuff... that's not the point. The point is that "if only" thinking removes us from the present moment and puts our thoughts out somewhere in the future... and starts the worry about everything that must happen before that future arrives. Meanwhile, all our bandwidth is "out there" somewhere, and we forget just how absolutely awesome and perfect it is to just sit on the back porch for an hour, watching the sun paint a masterpiece with clouds as it sinks below the horizon.
THAT... right there.... is the nail on the head!
WATCH SUNSETS @jaynie! Always remember to watch sunsets...
you see plenty of these no doubt :) lol