Why is it, That when we prepare for something, We prepare for the worst. Not the best? When We prepare for the rainy days, Rather than the sunny. What a negative outlook on life in general.
What You Focus On Expands
I'm a firm believer in this, When we only focus on the negative aspects. Such as things we hate about our job. They expand. Our negative attitude brings more negative experiences to the table.
Just because your life isn't perfect doesn't mean you need to spend all day focused on it. It's like when I worked at UPS. And Sometimes we would get our volume at the end of the night, Instead of having it balanced out. Many people would get really angry, And on some days I would too. But ultimately IT HAPPENED! And it was OUT OF OUR CONTROL. The only thing now in our control, Was to get the packages loaded. So we could go home and enjoy our weekend.
I remember one day in particular. When My work area was pretty bad off. A couple co workers made snotty comments at me “ Why you so happy Kaylin When we got Fucking screwed tonight?”.
I was all giggly and happy, Despite the crazy night. Once we were done, We got to go home and enjoy our weekend. I was happy because it was Friday, Because we were almost done. And I was grateful that I had a job, And I got paid that day. There seemed to be 10 things to be happy about and only 1 thing to be upset about. Heck, Even then. We were staying later getting more hours = More pay. Plus a little bit of overtime!
I went home happy that night. And I was able to enjoy the rest of my night. While those coworkers, because they let the 1 thing ruin their day, Probably had a crappy Friday night. And who knows. Maybe their whole weekend sucked too.
So one tiny “Inconvenient” moment determined their whole mood for the day. Thats a great way to be happy in life! (Sarcasm)
How do you expect to have opportunities given to you, When you are too focused on the negative?
In a job interview, I'm sure 99.9 % of the time, They will pick that happy looking person. Over the person who doesn't look like they want to be there.
Ultimately if you are focused on the negative, And what could go wrong, You are less likely to get those opportunities.
Focus On What Could Go Right
Think of all the opportunities you probably passed up because you were worried about “What could go wrong.”
Some of the best things in life, Involve quite a bit of discomfort and pain. As well as risk of that embarrassment, Or Other factors that can lead to something “bad” happening.
Take skydiving for example, You could die.
There is always that chance.
But if you only focused on the “dying” part. You probably wouldn't go skydiving. Instead you would stay home.
But if you focused on how fun it could be and how the experience could change your life, You are more likely to go.
Even When It Goes Bad, You Still Win
I like to look at bad things that happen in my life, And try to find that “Silver” lining. As a result. Not a lot of bad things have happened to me, Because I found some kind of learning experience, Or Prerequisite towards something bigger that I wanted. Sure, Somethings in life, Are so bad. (Such as someone passing away.) You probably don't even want to mess with that kind of mindset.
But Other situations, Like Your car not starting, Might actually have a silver lining.
Well your car didn't start.
Maybe something is seriously wrong! Lucky you, It didn't start in the driveway, And didn't stop while you were driving on the freeway!
Another Silver lining: You can get that fixed now, Instead of later. Maybe later you'd be in a worse of financial situation, Then from where you are at now.
This even applies to larger things that happen. You may not even think of them. Whether it's gaining knowledge or experience. You usually get “Something” out of that bad experience.
Learning from the bad brings you wisdom and experience. Pushing through and being positive after the bad helps you grow and be generally happier in life.
I used to always get upset or mad when I constantly had things go wrong, but eventually my mindset changed and I am now a lot happier, a lot better off despite not having all what I hope to get in life.
Some people sometimes say: "I wish I was a positive person." To me that's interesting because it sounds like you are either born a positive person or you are born a negative person.
The fact is that people in general are more easily attracted to the negative. That is because our brain handles positive and negative information in different hemispheres. Negative emotions generally trigger more thinking, and also the information is processed more thoroughly than positive emotions. Thus we are programmed to be more easily "negative".
So how come some are positive then, does their brain work differently ? I don't think it does necessarily. It's their choice of thinking that is different and we can all change it. As a matter of fact it is not hard. Instead of letting the emotions control our feelings, we let our thinking control our feelings.
Like for example when you got this big work load on a friday evening. Probably your first emotional reaction was that you got a bit angry. But you started using reasoning, like a positive Sherlock Holmes, you found many silver linings in this situation.
So in the end were you a more positive person than your colleagues ? Hell yes. But you were so because of the way you handled your emotions. We can all learn this fact. We choose what we feel by choosing what we want our mind to focus on. You can always find something to be positive about !
Very nice and inspirational post and a good start for me on a Saturday morning :) I just opened the curtains and it is a bit cloudy today. So am I going to feel blue today?
Nope - Because every cloud has a silver lining !
Well people find it easy to be pessimistic and negative because, being positive will require total strength, faith and hardwork.
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Right? Thank you :)
It's true! I feel like being negative is easier. And being positive takes practice (Then it becomes easier!)
Positive or negative, it is just a 2 side of a coin..
One bring happiness and the latter bring sorrow..
Deeper meaning, I am as i am today because of my past programming... Im happy today, because i have continuously absorb positivism all this while from previous days, months and years... same on latter, continuous absorbing negativity on previous days, months and years would make me a sorrow person... it is the power of attraction that submerge what we are today and what we would be tomorrow...
And yes as what u said practice... the only way that can change everything... practice with determination and endurance and in period it would be materialize.. very warm touching post.. thanks and God Bless..
All in all good things are like child birth, its painful in the process but sweet at actualisation. Thank you for replying me
@kaylinart -You have stated some powerful examples of positive thinking. Positive thinking has almost become a cliche term but very few of us actually understand how powerful it can be. Your examples illustrate the thought process and the possible outcomes very well.
Kudos. Thanks for sharing this nice article. Upvoted full
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Negativity always seems to bring down people because we let it . If we focus on the positives , it defeats every negative
Failure can happen, don't dwell on it. keeping pushing, be positive. All is Awesome!
Exactly :)
@kaylinart I always Love your Positive Attitude and the Way you Treat others with Kindness..........
Great philosophy... In short we should be optimist not pessimist ...
Exactly heheh :)
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Very well said. A very good post. Actually I started living that way for a year and it changed my life, my thinking and of course my future. Now I cant think about any bad thing that is gonna happen. I think only about good things and good future and keep myself all the time positive.
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This is exactly what I need to do in these times full of uncertainty in crypto market :( :)
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We all know failure is the pillar of success but we must have to focus on success of every work and must reward myself for every success. Nice post I must appreciate with you .
Failure gains experience and life lessons for the future and any day you wake up breathing is a day to rejoice! Stay positive!
I could not agree more. A lass just left my work as it was too stressful and two of the mangers pick up on this and made her life hard. People ask me how I find them, to me they are find I do my job and am happy and in comparison have no stress as I don't worry and smile and make life happy :)
Super post :) Totally agree with you on the silver lining part. Behind every cloud there is the sunshine. I am an amateur motivational blogger to and do follow back if you are looking for an interesting read.
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What we expect in life, sometimes we don't get that. It happens. But what you are focusing on, that's important. If you focus on good things, you're motivated, you are happy in life. Eventually good things happen. Don't get mad or sad if you don't get what you want. Learn from it and move on. A bright future is waiting for you. That's how I think.
Optimism over pessimism. Dare what you dread and expect the best, what could go right rather than what could go wrong. I'm feeling motivated. Nice write up @kaylinart
After reading twice I can say post is meaningful but sometimes can not accept in reality.
True! But sometimes you just need to work with what you can.
Kaylin, I like the way you presented this....from the negative side to the positive side, instead of everything's so great. If we can find the best in whatever is happening to us at the moment and go from there, the sun shines more often in our lives.