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A lot of women have this whole "empowerment" mindset that feminism encourages, Saying they don't need a man. The reality is that we all need people in our lives. There is nothing wrong with admitting that you want someone.
Unreasonable expectations
Men are people, too. It's unbelievable how many expectations we have of men automatically because of our programming as children. We are taught to look for our perfect prince charming, Who will give us the world. That will be perfect every day and shower us with love and attention. This sets us up to have unreasonable expectations of every date we go on and every relationship that we have, and overall, it makes us susceptible to ruling out people who would be an excellent match for us. Things will never be perfect, and being in this mental state of chronically comparing your relationships to others will leave you disappointed in every way because the reality is that you are only seeing the best parts of their relationships and not the bad.
Getting Offended Easily
It's become common to let what offends you be known to the world. People cry, bitch, and moan about the simplest things. Without taking into consideration the impact it has on the people around them. We cannot possibly accommodate everyone in every way, so we need to be realistic about what we should hold our ground on. People like to be offended, but it makes them unique in some way and forces others to tiptoe. It gives us a perception of control. The reality is that it can cause severe issues in a relationship when you let everything offend you.
Your partner may not feel comfortable enough to express themselves in situations, which builds resentment later. Getting offended is not cute or fun for anyone. We all have triggers and are offended by some things, But it's essential to keep that list small as possible.
Being Confusing Laying out your expectations, Wants, and needs in a relationship is a great habit to get into. People can't read minds, and no one wants to play a guessing game. Some think it makes them "hard to get" or "interesting." By being complicated and over the top. It may seem attractive initially, but eventually, it gets boring for everyone and makes you a huge hassle.
Being Overcritical
No one likes being judged heavily for their mistakes. Yet we do it all the time to other people. Holding them at a significantly higher standard than what we hold ourselves to.
Being overly critical of others is another way of saying that you know better and that you can do better than they can. That makes you look arrogant. No one is perfect and being able to love and accept others for who they are makes your relationships much more peaceful to be in
i gave up "flirting" in 1999 - because it is a lie - I gave up "make-up" because it's a lie, I quit dying my hair in like 2012 - now it's long and gray, i met my husband in 2017 - in a class - and we are just real with each other. I gave up trying to manipulate to get my way and we are doing well as a result.
I love that! I did the same on a more personality level when I met my husband. I didn't bother trying to hide certain parts of myself. I love that you let your hair color grow out. I love the long gray hair look. I think it's really pretty.
thanks for your reply - you may not remember me but we have known each other since steemit - I am glad you are still doing well...blessings!
Of course i remember you :) I hope you are doing well too! I'm glad you are still here. Well on Hive of course!