What To Remember When You HATE Yourself!

in #life7 years ago

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Many of us hate ourselves these days; We are brainwashed into thinking that everyone is so much further ahead than us, That we don't deserve to be happy Or to enjoy certain things. We refuse to love and accept ourselves until we are "perfect." Which is something we will never obtain?

There is always room for growth.

When you think you are an expert at something, you often stop learning, Which prevents you from growing! You will never be perfect at anything, and there will always be things you can do to get better! You can improve your skills at drawing, Fishing or whatever it is that you are doing. You'll never be "done" learning that skill. Even professional basketball players have room to improve.
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Everyone Embarrasses Themselves Sometimes

No one is perfect, and everyone will look silly now and then. Don't let "Not knowing how" stop you from doing the things that you want to do with your life.
We all have to start somewhere, And everyone makes mistakes! Laugh at yourself, Make it a joke. Don't beat yourself up.

Care About Your Own Opinion!

Sometimes we forget to ask ourselves. What we think about a certain thing. Instead, we make assumptions based on the people around us. What would they like? What would they want?

Why not figure out what we want?
I have this issue a lot. I forget to figure out what matters to me. Or what I want, Instead I assume what my boyfriend would want, and I suggest those things, Even though deep down I feel like it may not be the right choice for me. I later feel a little neglected, And by my fault, Because no one can read minds!

It's important to ask yourself what you truly want and go with that. It's okay to have a different opinion than someone else. There is always compromising if necessary.
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You're the only person you have!

Sure you have family, Friends, and Steemit to help you through the hard times. But at the end of the day the only person who is guaranteed to be with you for your whole life, Is yourself.
As morbid as it sounds, The people close to you may not be around forever, And you may not keep in touch with everyone on a permanent basis. You can only fully rely on yourself 100%. Loving yourself is the only way you can reach all of your goals and get what you want out of life.

Self-Esteem Can Be Improved

Just because your self-esteem may be low now, Doesn't mean it always has to be, Your self-esteem is like many things in life, it can be built upon, Improved and fixed.


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I really like the part about making your decisions for yourself and not alwAys for others I didn't realize how much I do that!!

Right? SO many people are sheep like hehehe.

This is so true and wonderful to remember. I have been a massage therapist for 10 years and I've seen so many clients come in dealing with stored pain and trauma in their bodies because of self hatred. It's so easy in this society to be endlessly hard on ourselves. Thank you for reminding us that it is so important to remember to be kind to ourselves.

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That I am freaking awesome ! Oh, wait you mean for people in general. Uhm, awkward.

OMG XD YOu are so funny hehehehe!! You are freaking awesome though :)

Love the positive message behind this post. I always tell people... you need to be your own best friend! :)

EXACTLY :) I love that! If you can't enjoy spending time alone, how can you enjoy the company of others?

I hear ya! Self love!

Day by Day I love myself a little more. It took time but the older I've gotten the easier it is to do. I've always learned to laugh at myself which was something I was afraid to do early on in my life. Wonderful post as always @kaylinart
Steem On...:)

It is so tempting to just feel fed up with yourself and let that stop you from moving forward, but I try to give myself love and some margin for error. I know that I have room for improvement, but I still try to do my best!

Thanks for your inspiring posts, as always. :)

Such an uplifting read! thanks. I know we are too hard on ourselves a little too often. Its easy to get carried away in negative thoughts/feelings. Its good to have a goal to keep us motivated to get out of bed every morning.

Thanks for the great words, well put! :D

Thank you! I agree we are wayyyy too hard on ourselves!!

Yes, we are. I am very hard on myself.

Yes there is never a reason the hate yourself. There is always tomorrow for improvement

The last perfect person I know was killed on a cross. Too many people focus on the things that they need in life and forget to ask themselves what it is that they want. You said that part exactly. LOVING yourself, is also the best way to start any relationship, because then you will unconditionally love. Great insight and post, sure glad I am following you, wouldn't want to miss your stuff. Keep posting

Never get stuck in the past and love yourself.

Exactly :)

Wow I loved the positive message that you passed through this text. Sensational

Hey! Awesome post, I really appreciated that. There's so many crazy or bad things happening nowadays and this felt so genuine and heartfelt. Thank you for being you.

great post thank you

Awesome post!

I don't hate myself. I just get impatient with success

Hahha I can relate hehe :)

Great post! Thank you for sharing :)

We all need to be ourselves and be our main partners.
What a great post, congratulations. I love.

I love how you always bring postivies messages, keep up the blogs!

Thanks for a reason for reflection before bedtime, I needed this today :)

Hehe I'm glad I helped :)

You always have some positivity to share!
Thanks :)

Way to keep it upbeat

Thank you :)

dont lose faith, keep it up, well done , :)

Thank you :)

This post make me blowing

WHat? LOL

When you surrender the ego. Everything is uplifted and the world flows so beautifully. No more negatives emotions bringing you down. Love your posts!

So true! I love your comment! Heheh Thank you!

Why would you ever "hate" yourself? That doesn't seem rationale... like ever.

Right?
But a lot of people do sadly.

In this world if u get what u want ( beautiful car , beautiful gf or bf , house, good job....) ofc u will love ur self , else u will hate ur self .. it's all about money .. it's life :/

This post really put a lot into perspective thanks for sharing! I upvote and follow constantly, Much love to the steem community ! thanks Kaylin :)

No problem And thank you :)

When I was a kid, mostly my teenage years, my mother told me that she hated me all the time. Also always told me I was ugly too. I don't really hate myself too often but I don't feel that attractive. It has a big effect on me.

We should see our imperfections as weaknesses and work to improve them, not as faults that we need to change. Great post again!

Good motivation words. For some reason, I never let myself to go there.

Good post, I also think you should always be listening or watching what other people have to say or do, you always learn something new from other people, if you keep an open mind.

Echos a lot of things I've been thinking about. Thanks for sharing!

This is such a great post! I love the positivity and uplifting message. We are all unique in our own way and no one is more important than anyone else. We each have something to give the world and there's plenty to go around. The sooner people realize that they have a voice and can use it to spread happiness and joy into the world, the sooner we'll see positive change and peace on Earth :)

Selflove best you can do to yourself as a women.😘

We are our toughest critics and things encourage others to improve upon we tell ourselves we'll never get and to give up.

Its nice when posts like this remind us to give ourselves a break. We deserve it just as much as the next guy. We just have to remember that we are all human, we all make mistakes and we all deserve a second chance. :D

Great post. :D Thanks for sharing it. :D

Keep it coming :)

I totally agree with you my friend. My position in life has given me the opportunity to meet people who told me that they hate the way they are. The keep wishing to be like another person. They feel like they are not good enough, may be because someone have told them before that they are not good. We must show love to ourselves. Make out time to admire yourself, give yourself a good treat because life has no duplicate. Nice content as usual.

The first step towards loving others is to love yourself first, just joined last night and your blog is super interesting!

Great post! I suffered from really low self-esteem for a very long time. You truly do have to see that it is possible to get out of that mindset.

You are so very true. It is so very difficult to please others if you are not happy with yourself

Thank you so much! Have a blessed day.

I love these motivational posts you make!

I think the only thing perfect is in willingly to keep growing and learning. When we stop caring or feeling like we need to further ourselves, that is when we are truly lost. Everyone can be and do better, it's not for us to judge that or even to judge ourselves. We just have to keep moving forward! Awesome post.

I really needed this read right now - and a reminder that's its ok to put yourself first. Our society is based on :10 ways to impress your boss, How to keep your man satisfied, Etc While your post applies to everyone, I think it especially resonates with women - as we're often taught to put the needs of others before our own.

Good stuff. As always :-)

love the positiveness in your post, :)

This is definitely something I needed to read today! Thank you ;-;

Yes sometimes self esteem can be torn down, and if you build it up it can became stronger. Then it can be torn down again, and if you build it up again it can become even more stronger. Then all of a sudden over the life time of a wobbly legged colt comes forth a strong horse in full battle armor ready to take his rider into the hottest of battles to live and fight another day.

When I get down on myself, I try to re-frame it as something I need to work on, and if I look in the past, I can see that I've improved, so this is something that will improve for me too.

Hey, thanks for sharing this motivational piece of writing. We all at some point of life feel very low and I've personally gone through such phases several times. I took a positive approach towards life and in bringing back ones self esteem, the immediate sorrounding can also help. Support and faith of Friends and family can boost one's self esteem a lot. Cheers to positivity!

This is a great post. Going through career change and other life stuff, and this was very uplifting. Thank you for posting it. Made my day :)

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