I have no ideal of a benevolent leadership. I do not want leadership, I want governance. Governance without hierarchy. I identify as a communalist in the tradition of Murray Bookchin. You could call it anarchism, it´s basically the same,just not individualist anarchism.
Socialism is not dictatorship:
Socialism is a range of economic and social systems characterised by social ownership and democratic control of the means of production;[10] as well as the political ideologies, theories, and movements that aim at their establishment.[11] Social ownership may refer to forms of public, collective, or cooperative ownership; to citizen ownership of equity; or to any combination of these.[12] Although there are many varieties of socialism and there is no single definition encapsulating all of them,[13] social ownership is the common element shared by its various forms.[5][14][15]
But this is a moot point, as I´m not a socialist.
The central point is that capitalism and socialism are both old solutions,based on scarcity and centralisation.
What we need is a post scarcity scenario. Read the comment of williambanks above, it pretty much sums it up.