Have you noticed that when you leave the office nervously, people in the subway are rough with you? And you're rude to them. How different the world looks when you're in love! The world is your mirror!
The world is a mirror: whatever you feel from inside, you get it from outside.
That is why HUMAN CAN NOT MAKE HIS LIFE, CHANGING THE EXTERNAL CIRCUMSTANCES.
If the people you meet on the street are unpopular, you can change the street, but that will not help. If you do not get respect in your office, you will not solve the problem by changing the job to another.
Most of us have learned this principle upside down! We usually say, "If you do not like your work, change it. If you do not like your wife, change it too." There are occasions when it is appropriate to change your job or partner.
But do not change your way of thinking, this is tantamount to asking for the same results.
EXAMPLE: Bob does not help his wife Carl. Both of them work from nine to five, but Carol cannot rely on Bob for childcare and home care. Every evening, he goes out to have something to drink, and he goes to the golf course at the weekend. Carol feels like a maid and gets angry at her husband.
But the problem is not with Bob. And in herself. While Carol feels like a maid, he will be treated as such. To change her life, Carol needs to learn to appreciate Carol. The moment he feels worthy, important, and attractive, he gets the support of Bob or someone else.
The problem is always with us.
EXAMPLE: Family and friends - everyone constantly wants something from you. Someone moves to a new home and immediately seeks for help with packing and carrying the luggage. Another needs a shuttle to the airport at 4 am and calls you. Finally, you ask yourself, "Why does not anyone value my time?"
Because you do not appreciate it! When you change, people will change.
The problem is NOT in them.
Many do not understand it. Throughout their lives they blame others - but the problem is not with other people.
If you feel that you do not deserve a good pay, you will find a boss for whom you will work almost without money.
If you do not pay attention to your feelings, you will find yourself in a workplace where people will also ignore your feelings and be disparaging to you.
Or maybe you will be in the army where you will be bullied!
But the problem is not in the other but in your relationship with your self.
If you hate your bulky backs, you will find a partner who will laugh at you for the huge ass. But if you learn to take your ass as it is, you probably will: a) replace your partner with a new one; or b) you will find that your old friend has acquired a new attitude. The problem has never been with your friend. And in your respect to yourself.
That your boss insists on better results, and your wife wants more than you, usually means that you are putting too high demands on yourself.
Even the problem of racial and religious prejudices has nothing to do with PEOPLE.
If you accept, they will accept you too.
If you love them, they will love you too.
Conclusion
You create your own world yourself. You do not have to convince anyone else. It is enough to feel different.
The perfect evening
Our lives are always a reflection of the way we feel.
EXAMPLE: Your friends are in town. You decide to invite them to a great dinner at their favorite Coco Restaurant.
You call the restaurant to book a table. Hostess responds:
I'm sorry, but everything is complete.
What does it mean to be complete?
We have no free tables.
"But I'm a regular client!" Find me a table!
- I'm sorry.
You slam the handset on the phone.
- Damn it! The evening had to go perfectly.
You're angry.
You choose another restaurant. The food turns out to be oily, the shrimps are nasty, all the way back to your wife, and you wake up in the morning with food poisoning.
OR ...
The Metter says:
Everything is complete.
Great. And now we've been eating twenty times at Coco. We have to try something different.
You call your ex-boss who knows all the best restaurants in town. He recommends you a new location, close to your home.
The food is incomparable. You bind a conversation with the neighbor table couple who turn out to be your neighbors. You find new friends and next week you all go to Coco.
Is not this the secret of life?
The case will be against you whenever you believe in it. But there is another way to live: believing that the universe is continually making plans to make you happy.
Conclusion
The harmony you seek is not rooted in relationships with others, but in the relationship with oneself.
Much love - Krisii
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At the beginning when I saw the title of your post, I thought it would be about the usual stubborn attitude to the idea of changing one's way of thinking. People with destructive believes often oppose the idea of changing them - since the idea of changing your way of thinking is often countered by catchy "accept yourself as you are instead of changing yourself"
But (the very different thing) that you actually wrote about is also just as true.
Way too often people retreat to searching for the change in the external world as means of finding internal peace in themselves. In my humble, amateurishly-psychological, theory I think comes from the general consumerist culture that we live in (advertisements making us pursue materialistic goods in order to achieve happiness - which, happiness, in its nature, is an internal, not external, matter).
Good post, I liked that. Thanks.
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