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I got the feeling that in the court system, you have very bad changes as a man and if you on top of that have a child with a foreigner,

I would like to say that this is rare but sadly I think in most family breakdowns the man is at a severe disadvantage in the courts. I have heard many such stories.

There was even a group in the UK that tried to fight for the rights of fathers - haven't heard from them in a while but I suspect they still exist.

I have heard about the existence of similar groups in France. It is sad, but fathers are kind of discriminated in such cases.

We indeed need a change in mentalities as a starter.

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You misunderstand - I said I would like to say it is rare but it is not rare - that is the point I was making - I have heard the same story from many others.

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Sure the more people that talk about it the more likely it is that change will come.

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Wow! I am so sorry to hear how the "justice" system (if you ca actually call it that) just dragged you around while in the mean time your kids lives are going by. My uncle, originally from mexico but then an american citizen, moved to Denmark and married a woman there after becoming a doctor. They decided to have a child here in america, and since his then wife was unable to have a child, they had a surrogate, then moved back to Denmark. Since then, they have divorced and somehow, his ex wife STILL got custody of the kid, even though she didn't give birth to her, the kid likes my uncle a hell of a lot more, and she is just a stay at home mother with no job to support her... It really makes me angry that it seems most court systems always favor the woman because "shes the mother so she must be a better parent." Again im sorry to read about your circumstances, having children is hard enough, let alone when someone else is forcing you to raise them in a way you disagree with.

Yes the best thing you can do is expose them and shame them to the world! Get creative and find other ways to do that. Other men need to be told. Maybe plan a free coffee shame campaign outside their work place.