I'm very fortunate.
Since I was in my early 20's, I have lived my own live - in the very truest sense of the meaning.
But the person I was to make those decisions in my early 20's came from a life of 'toughness'.
That life that made me strong enough to make those decisions.
I have no (or close enough to no, to say no) regrets.
But living your life free isn't easy. It's not always nice - far from it.
We ought to choose how we will live.
We all do, no matter how much we like to blame others for it not being the life we want.
A very bitter pill to swallow, and best done looking in a mirror at the same time, for full effect....