Bad Boys do succeed, mainly in teen and early 20’s, because they are ahead of their peers in the confidence department.
This confidence is a byproduct of their own indifference towards authority and Life, which, unfortunately, often leads them down the path to nowhere.
There was once a time that I could walk into a room containing dozens of beautiful women and talk to each of them with cool, unwavering confidence.
Holding a beer in one hand, I could wedge my way into a group of women, and begin talking, joking, having a good time.
And - as God watches me writing this now - I can assure you that my heart rate never increased, there was no self-doubt - the movement was fluid - like martial arts - like water.
But how?
What was the trick? Was I an infamous Bad Boy?
Nope.
I was married.
And married with no intentions of shenanigans.
I didn’t give a hoot if the girl wanted to date, hook up, text, Netflix & Chill, smooch, play tic-tac-toe.
I didn’t give a hoot if she thought I was ugly, if she prayed I wouldn’t ask her out, if she thought my face was weird, if she’d rather date Hitler before me.
I didn’t give a hoot.
I was indifferent. I was just saying hi.
Hot women, skinny women, pretty women, ugly women, they are all just people like you.
Even in my non-married years, I always had the most dating success when I had just come to hang out, when I wasn’t on the prowl.
It’s amazing what being normal can do.
But who can act normal when they have a romantic agenda? Romantic agendas are burdened by the natural wet blanket of human insecurity.
It’s impossible to act normal sometimes.
Drop the romantic agenda.
Tactics:
Pretend in your mind you are the married guy who is hanging out. Socializing, being friendly.
Don’t think about women as hot objects. Banish those thoughts. They are toxic.
Be one of the girls. Not literally. Or even verbally. Just imagine how you’d be if you were just another girl there to hangout.
Assume they all aren’t interested in the first place. So that dating isn’t even on the menu. Assume every girl in the room has pre-rejected your romantic interest, so just talk to them like friends.
Make yourself indifferent to the romantic outcome by not having a romantic outcome in mind in the first place.
Indifference unlocks confidence. Confidence unlocks attraction.