Is the reason it is easier to be angry b cause outrage is aggressive and hurt is usually equated with weakness? Weak individuals get hurt and to demonstrate or mention that hurt seems to be even more of a weakness. Anger can be addressed and alleviated or vented. Hurt requires a healing process which works best with both parties. Anger only needs one party. Telling someone you are hurt is too much of a feeling of capitulation when really we should be saying “you hurt me and now I want to know why you did it and I want you to rectify it. But we don’t. Saying you are hurt is too often equated with calling our “uncle” in emotional tugs or war.