Hello dear Steemians!
Why do people become strangers to each other? Why does this chasm come between close people? And can it be avoided?
Is it necessary to avoid it?
People rarely change drastically. Habits are changing. The way of life changes. Views are changing.
It's like a labyrinth of your life. There are billions of roads and you choose which one to go.
At some point in you the desire to wander through the mountains wakes up. But for your companion is more comfortable and easier to sit at home. So why are we taking to the mountain someone, who does not want it?
It's great if your companion supports you. If you are on the same wave and you are drawn to adventure together. If you think in one direction. But if you want to go up, and a close person it absolutely does not need it, then there's nothing to be done.
Your way of life changes, so does your environment. This is normal. You do not need to drag someone along, even out of good intentions! Nothing good will come out of it!
And maybe this person does not need your mountains! Or maybe he has sore knees and a he is fear of heights ?!
All you need is to go your own way. Your people will always be somewhere nearby. And if it's not your people, so maybe the chasm is the thing?
"You do not need to drag someone along, even out of good intentions! Nothing good will come out of it!" <--- I love this. This is a great reminder that sometimes people aren't meant to be in our lives anymore.
They are there when we need each other, and then we move on sometimes. As I've gotten older, I've had to learn not to be sad when people leave my life or vice versa. So this post is a reminder not to be sad, and just keep growing!
My parting with people has always been painful. I had to go a long way to stop feeling this pain.
I'm better than I was before, but I definitely still feel the pain even now sometimes! I feel ya
I understand what you mean very well !
Мне кажется, что иногда это не пропасть, а личное пространство. Есть пары, для которых важно делать вместе абсолютно все, начиная завтраком и заканчивая походами в горы. Другие пары ценят личное пространство и время наедине с собой, при этом один из партнеров поддерживает другого в любых начинаниях, будь то экстремальные вилы спорта или вязание крючком. Но если между людьми действительно лежит пропасть - ничего не поможет
Я имела в виду не семейные пары, а дружеские отношения между людьми. Это немного другое. Хотя да, ты абсолютно права!
Я поняла, что речь идет о дружбе, просто я думаю, что в среди друзей всегда есть кто-то, кто для тебя ближе остальных. Таким образом создаются дружеские "пары", в которых часто один ведущий, а другой ведомый
В моей жизни было несколько моментов когда я теряла друзей по разным причинам, и тогда пропастью была та пустота, которая остается от ушедшего от тебя человека. Это очень больно и лечится годами. Теперь я стараюсь не привязываться к людям настолько сильно. Да и вести за собой, честно говоря, уже никого не хочется...
Superbly put. We came alone and we will go alone. We certainly can't make other person the partner of sufferings.
It's the attachment getting in the way.
Don't be attached. Be free and fly high!
Yes, maybe you are right! :)
I guess when you go in your directions the partners on those journeys change. There might be some that continue to go with you in your different journey and some that will go there own way. I found when I delved into personal development, improvement etc a lot of my old friends became strangers and really only 2 or 3 have stayed with me on my journey.
Great post - thanks!
Unfortunately, we lose a lot of friends during our life journey, for various reasons. This can be very painful sometimes ...
Hey @nearbird for steemit, great post! I enjoyed your content. Keep up the good work! It's always nice to see good content here on Steemit!
That question is so hard to answer. Even if you experience it everyday, you still don't know why.