Many a times, we meet middle-aged people who sit us down and ask us about our lives as youths in the twenties. They try to advise us , tell us stories and if they are lovely enough, they give us touching narrations of their regrets and tell us why and how to avoid same pitfalls.
Most of them, worked regular jobs, probably built a house or two, have a few cars but not so much meaningful impact but then when you look into their eyes to check their soul, all you see are shattered dreams and a life that has resigned itself to fate. Some of them are people we love: parents, uncles, older friends and sometimes, mentors.
From my readings of great men , most especially biographies (best source of learning), I discovered a very cogent trend that I feel is the reason of middle-aged mediocrity and emptiness. I call that trend "THE MOMENT OF MADNESS". It is that moment in one's life when one throws caution to the wind and go after only what you love and have passion for without much consideration for possibilities of failure and mockery. This kind of life can not be lived without the *proper psychology of safety *. Mind you, every great man had his or her moment of madness.
Yet, many wish to go "mad, at least for a moment" but the improper psychology would not let them. The Improper Pyschology of Safety is to believe that going the well-treaded path will give you safety, that going to school will ensure you financial safety. Going to school is good but it is an express way to the financial freedom.
I think the only proper pyschology of safety is when you decide to take into full possession the tools of your safety. Getting a job is good but bad when there is no eventual plan of independence . That is like relinquishing the totality of your present, past and future (and that of your children) in to the hands of other men as whatever we make of our lives now will have a ripple effect in the lives of our offsprings for many generations to come.
Life could be unfair but at least, taking full responsibilities of one's life emotionally, financially , spiritually and in every other way gives us the opportunities to negotiate our chances with life even if they say "She is unfair". At the end, I would be satisfied I had a seat at the table that negotiated my failure or success. If I fail, I had a hand in it. If I succeed,I still had a hand in it. I will not let someone else negotiate it for me.
Conclusion
Every man needs to set up a time for himself when you take out, go mad , and live his/her dreams and see for himself/herself if fantasies come true or not, while not letting the improper pschology of safety take him or her over.
Let Go and Let Live. You Only Live Once.
I hope I touched a Soul.
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To avoid a life of mediocrity we need to step out of our comfort zone. A wise man once told me if you are really going to be successful then you should not be afraid of failure. You habe touched this soul. Thank you for the support.
Beautiful write up.
Most people do go into what they will derive pleasure from when young but as they age further they realise it wasn't worth it and there is no time on their side to catch up. We should live both trying our fantasies and what's real but we shouldn't let our fantasies over cloud us.
Impresive writeup. You indeed touched a soul.
You see in life when one makes a mistake or experience madness, one must rise up and keep moving bcz dere are no carpet in d race track!
This is deep. Overtime I've come to understand that playing too safe means not moving ahead. Life itself is a risk. The risk takers and the adventurous are always the winners why because they are ready and willing to make mistakes, learn from it and improve. We sure do need some moments of madness in our lives. Nice one @ogoowinner. Keep inspiring us
True; sometimes playing safe will never let you achieve your dreams.
YOU DESERVE SOME ACCOLADES FOR THIS WRITE-UP.
The safest place a ship can be is at the harbor. if it ventures into the wild seas, it risks destruction in a tempestuous storm.But what use is a ship that never sails? So is a life that always puts safety above accomplishment that comes with being daring and adventurous.
Life is all about balance, some negativity is justified to help prepare for unforeseen circumstances. Balance is all we should be after this is why labeling things in extremes all or nothing success or failure is an exercise in futility. We should appreciate the grey area between the extremes the journey the experiences. And above all, never let success get to your head or failure get to your heart.
Preparing myself for my moment of madness. And I know it will be awesome.
Accolades to my future madness
Love this part so much.
Life is not fair, it is actually a warfare.
as such just an individual must get ready to fight for right in order to avoid the psychology of madness.
nice one
Thats why as youth we need to learn from mistakes of our parents and create a better environment that fits us. And take charge of every opportunity and use it wisely.
One minute madness is allowed cos i do that sometimes
Moment of madness!
This is just too epic.
Our life of today is as a result of choices we made yesterday, we are already designing how our tomorrow would look like by what we are doing now
Freedom in our mind is the only key that can unleash the potentials in us.
We should all live our life that when we grow old, we will have nothing to regret. Enjoy your life when you can, you can still be happy as an old man when you know you don't leave any stone unturned.
Our culture is one of the limiting factors in this regard, it decide what one can and what one cannot do at certain age, that's why I distance myself from culture. When you know you still have things to accomplish and the culture is saying you are too old for it, it's results in great bitterness that led to regression later in life.
Thank you my lady Ogoo
It's really not an easy task to achieve stability in life. But in my humble opinion, the moment of madness is not for everyone, some might just not be able to cope with it. Life in this world is hard. One needs to be fervent in prayers...
Thanks for your visit on my blog yesterday. I deeply appreciate your support.
we only got one life lets make it memorable one :)