Forgiveness is not always as easy as we preach it. Even priests who emphasis on it daily sometimes find it difficult to forgive those who hurt them, especially those who do it intentionally or consistently.
I'm someone who's quick to forgive, but there have been times when forgiveness looked difficult for me. Some years ago, I was accused of theft by someone I worked for. He didn't give me a chance to prove my innocence. He took me to the police station to be arrested. Of course, they started torturing me without hearing my own side of the story.
If you know anything about the Nigerian police, then you'll understand this story better. They really do not care to know if you're guilty or not, all that matters is the person who has more money. My boss was rich and I wasn't. They only heard his own side of the story and never gave me a listening ear. I was held custody by the police for three days. It looked like I'll never get justice until my church intervened. The police decided to hear my story when the church took up the case. They investigated and found out that I was innocent, then they freed me.
I was released from the police custody, but nobody cared about apologizing for character defamation. I was traumatized. I never believed such a thing would ever happen to me. I was hurt and dehumanized. I remember how I cried bitterly that day. Even today as I write this, a few tears dropped.
I thought I was never going to forgive. I always wished someone richer than my boss would do same thing to him. I just wanted him to pay dearly for what he did to me. In my heart, I kept wishing him evil. I never knew that despite the fact that he did me wrong, I was doing myself more harm by wasting my mental energy on negative thoughts.
All the while I was wishing him evil, nothing bad happened to him. But I was very unproductive all through that period. My Mind was occupied by pains and grudges. My healing only began when I started reading books about the power of positive thinking. I made up my mind to forgive. I forgave him and started praying for him. I prayed for good things to happen to him. The prayers I made for him, came back to me. Good things started coming my way.
Conclusion
Sometimes, forgiveness might be one of the most difficult task. However, we have to bear it in mind that when we forgive, we are not doing those who hurt us a favour. We are actually doing it for our own good.
Unforgiveness drains your mental energy faster than you'll ever imagine. It causes mental illness that sometimes results in physical sickness. Don't add to your pains by refusing to forgive.
There's no wrong that cannot be forgiven. You can choose to stand in your own way by dwelling in unforgiveness or you can choose to have a healthy and productive state of mind by forgiving and moving on. The choice is yours. You have the power to forgive. Use that power wisely.
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For both is good but better for you not to be carrying bad feeling around.
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To forgive is really hard sometimes, especially when you've been deeply wronged. But it is the right thing to do, I remember a time way back when I held onto an issue with some people, could have done something crazy if the opportunity presented itself.
When I finally chose to forgive I actually got really sick from the weight being dropped after holding on for so long. But in the end it was the best choice I made.
It pays off to drop the load. Thanks for sharing your experience @akinsource.
some will assure u that theyve forgiven u but still they will attack you with what happened in the past.
to me ur boss wasn't right to have you detained
just forget about what happened i believe that all bad times will be history and the good times will be reality forever .
nice write up
It's already history to me. Thanks reading @chidiebereegbo
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I forgive most times, not because the person deserves it but I deserve it. Because the more you carry the grudge, the more it'll slowly kill you. So I try to forgive very fast, for my own sake, as well as the person. It's a heavy burden carrying on a king-sized grudge. You only live
once so you really gotta live it. Nice article as always. Peace ✌️🇳🇬
@bitfairy, I agree with you. Carrying grudge slowly kills. Thanks for reading.
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@ogoowinner. Very beautiful piece you got. Forgiveness carries a very positive energy. When you forgive you take all of that negative energy away and keep moving forward. Very inspiring article.
Love this post so much. Forgiveness is so important!! I had a period in my life where I held grudges and the grudges never consumed the other, as it did me. It took me a long time to realize I was only hurting myself! Upvoted and about to resteem!
Thanks for your upvote and resteem. I appreciate.
great quotes and specially first really too right and hope we should will try ot have some power forgiveness @ogoowinner
Thanks for your comment here @shencoin.
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Nice post @ogoowinner.I always follow your post @berkat
Thanks @berkat.
forgiveness is really hard sometimes u just want to forgive but what was done to u keeps on reappearing in ur mind and it hurts, however sotrue that wishing evil just causes unnecessary burden on urself because tll keep on staying in ur mind. good post.
@moonprincess thank you for this beautiful contribution.
Hello @ogoowinner
I am very glad that you decided to forgive your former boss. Holding on to grudges is not good and it is merely letting the person live rent free in your head.
Forgiveness is hard, that is why Jesus told you to forgive others just as you want your heavenly father to forgive you.This makes you to know that forgiveness is not to be based on the person but God's love for you.
I am glad you took the step to forgive, and thanks for sharing your story so that others can learn from it.
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Thanks for reading @ogochukwu. It wasn't easy, but it was worth it.
Forgiveness is the key to happiness
That's right. Thanks for having you here.
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great post
Forgiveness is for the brave since only the brave has the virtue to forgive. Forgiveness is also a pinnacle for love. Thanks for sharing.
You're right @harbysco. Only the brave and courageous can truly forgive. Thanks for your comment here.
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True forgiveness....one task so difficult
Very difficult, yet very needful. Thanks for your comment @eurogee.
There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love
You're right @blazing. Thanks for reading.
There is no moving forward without forgiveness. Unforgiveness is like a weight that keeps pulling us back no matter how hard you try to move ahead. Nice post
Thank you @rubiztech.
I always say this : you can forgive but never forget " not forget is the sense that you learnt your lessons already don't fall to the same mistake.
I don't think people do forget actually, they only treat you like you never did them any wrong. Thanks for your comment here @davidad.
Forgiveness is especially hard when the person you are working to forgive is not sorry and/or cannot accept any responsibility for their what they've done. Nice post!
That's true. But for our own good, we should choose to forgive and move on. Glad to see your comment here @cathynsons.
That's true. But for our own good, we should choose to forgive and move on. Glad to see your comment here @cathynsons.
Yes we all have
Another great post. Forgiveness is something we all need to give, nobody is perfect. Relationships could make or break due to someone's lack to forgive.
That's true @alex-icy. Thanks for reading this post.
Wow i love the knowledge i got in this awesome article. I really like your spirit, please do you have any take for those who can easily forgive but finding it difficult to forget? Please i'll be honor if you follow me back.
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I don't think anyone actually forgets. Besides, it's not in our power to decide if we want to forget something or remember it. People can only relate with you as if you never did them any wrong because they have forgiven you, not because they have forgotten.
What an experience.
Knowledge from experience
Experience makes writing sweet
Yes you are right. Very hard to forgive. That pain is always there. Nice one sis
Thanks for reading this @tormiwah.
One of the best post i've read on steemit. Insightful.Only the strong can forgive. You're blessed.
Thank you.
Thank you.
Thank you for this awesome comment @barca.