When you love and out others before yourself, you're giving them too much power over you and you might not realize it at first until it become extremely obvious to the world. Some of things are;
You give in to guilt trips.
If you change your behaviour because someone pulls your heart strings, then you've given too much power to that person over you. Stick to your principles in a relationship. Do not change for anyone and go against your principles just to satisfy your partner who met you like that before the relationship.You allow someone's else opinion if you dictate your self worth.
Trust your instincts and follow your mind. Do not always take other people's opinion over yours. Do not also feel bad about what the world says about you. Do not allow side talks make you feel bad about yourself or weigh you down.You don't establish healthy boundaries.
Set a healthy boundaries. Be picky about who stays in your life. If anyone takes too much if your energy, then you've given that person too much power over you.You complain about all the things you have to do.
You also have the right to choose what work to and not to do. You're not forced to do it but if you fell forced to do stuffs, then you've given those things power over you.You hold grudges.
Holding a grudge over someone won't destroy that person but rather it will destroy and cause havoc to you. Holding a grudge will only bring toxic effects to your life and it also means it has too much power over you.You changed your goals because you were rejected.
Changing your goals because you were rejected only means your a weakling. Even if you fail to get promoted in your workplace like the rest of your colleagues, it doesn't entail that you should give up. Giving up and changing goals means you're giving too much power to rejection.You set out to prove someone wrong.
When someone doubts you capability, trying to prove them wrong may make you do or say things you will regret in time to come. Stay true to your values and do not let those negative destroy you values in life.You let other people bring out the worst in you.
People will always prove and tempt you but let maturity set in and try your best to ignore them. Do not give them pleasure of letting their negative vibes bring out the worst in you. It inky means you're giving then too much power over you.You invest too much time in talking about people you don't like.
Just like the saying "If nobody talk about you, then you are nobody. Every minute you waste talking people you dislike could be used to make money or get stuffs done and of course it only shows you're giving too much power to those persons.You work hard to avoid criticism.
You will always be criticized and being afraid to be criticized by other means you're a coward. Some will praise you but there's the other half who will criticize you so working your Butt off just so the world won't get to criticize you means you're giving them too much power over you.
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