Don't know what to say sakib.. this is our society and thousands of us are going through this same situation.. I think if dulabhai can be on apu's side then things might be a little easier for her.. may Allah give her the peace 💙 I don't know if this is relevant or not, you can suggest apu to follow Yahia Amin bhai on YouTube. He is a very well known counselor from life spring.. I'll inbox you the details..
and that is how it has been for ages, and will be like this for go knows how long.
thank you rafa. will share the link with her whenever i get the opportunity.