In my life I had the pleasure to meet a lot of people, both in person and online. I had the pleasure to spend hours talking with those people and exchange all kind of information, discuss our interests and talk about all kind of new and crazy ideas.
From all those people I managed to talk with, by far, the most enjoyable were those who were both intelligent and really confident. Those people were smart enough to keep a conversation going and come up with new subjects to talk about when needed, but also confident enough to talk about things that not a lot of people would like to discuss.
However, one thing that I really liked when talking to some of them was the fact that they knew what's the difference between being confident when talking about something, especially when you think you're right and being confident in a stupid way, believing you're the best and anyone who dares contradict you is an idiot.
Those two qualities not only made them interesting people, people you would love to have a conversation with, but it also made them look good, no matter what kind of appearance they had. I always believed that when a person is really smart, the way they look doesn't matter at all, because they are already beautiful inside.
I know I mentioned this in previous articles, but from all the girls I had the pleasure to meet, by far, the most amazing ones were the girls that had a high level of intelligence. They were so interesting, so open to new ideas and so willing to tell you about what they like while also listening to what you have to say, that the way they looked didn't even matter.
I remember one person especially, a woman way older than me, that I talked to when I was 14 years old. I remember she used to let me see her on the web cam. It was a thing she was doing with most people she enjoyed talking with, or at least that's what she told me. One thing I remember is that she used to not have a problem in letting you see her face after she woke up, without applying any makeup.
She was not only really smart, but she had a really beautiful combination of not carrying what you thought about her while also being pretty confident of being beautiful enough to not wear makeup in order to impress people.
It's the same with all the men I've met. It's really interesting to walk on the street with a really smart and confident friend, and see the way people look at them. I know I admired those kind of people, and a while ago I wanted to see if walking with confidence would affect the way people look at you or the way they behave.
So, I decided that one day I should walk like a really scared guy, with my head down, trying to avoid people, and one interesting thing is that not only people did not really look at me, at all, but they did not even move when we had to pass near each other. They were willing to bump into me just because they felt superior.
However, on the next day, when I changed the way I was walking, and when I did it with confidence, looking people in the eyes, not only some people started looking at me more, but most of them also made sure not to bump into me and moved a little when we passed by each other.
It was a really interesting experiment and the results were also surprising. I never imagined that the way you walk could influence the way people look at you or the way people behave.
And that's only confidence. Combine that with reading a few books and being able to keep a really interesting conversation for a decent amount of time, and you'll pretty much gain the respect of people around you. If not, at least they'll like you more.
You don't have to look like a model and you don't have to apply makeup to hide your imperfections. That is not what matters at all. The two things that can make the difference between a really beautiful person and just another human that looks good, is the way you behave, how much confidence you have and how smart you are.
As I said, in all my years, the best people I had the pleasure to meet were both intelligent and confident. The funny thing is that those two things can be achieved pretty fast. If you want to be confident well... then just be confident. Nobody has to teach you that, because you already know how confident people behave.
Then all you have to do is invest in your brain, get smarter and smarter, learn new things that could help you have amazing conversations and make sure to know the difference between a confident idiot and a smart confident person.
So, if you have any insecurities about how people look at you or what they think about you and if you would like to change that, invest some of your time into becoming smarter, and work on your confidence. You don't have to be confident, you can just fake it. However, you do have to be intelligent. Faking it won't work.
I really like this. When you looked at the ground and looked scared, did you feel scared? There is a link between mind and body, so how you hold your body effects how you feel, and vice versa. Also body attitude.... if you seem weak, (prey) people kick in to predator mode. As they did when they barged past you.
Nice.
Yes, I felt a little scared, since I did my best to mimic the image of a scared person. Plus, the road I have to walk to get to the nearest city is full with all kind of dogs, and since I have some kind of phobia, that helped me.
It was really interesting to see people reacting to me when I seemed scared of them, and people reacting to me when I seemed like I'm stronger and better than them. It was an interesting experiment that helped me realize that sometimes, your attitude towards something is all that matters.
Thank you very much for your comment and for your upvote :)
No worries dude. Thanks for the response!