Not sure what you mean by the ‘buoyed’ bit.
Re: making others uncomfortable or angry...
I suppose it’s a matter of boundaries.
We’ve probably all made decisions to please others... but if ’re arranging your life based on trying to make others happy, how’s that working out for us?
Meanwhile, if we’re making decisions to prioritize our own well-being - the only space from which we can truly offer an authentic vibe that’s actually serving everyone, what does that say if people can’t respect that? Probably not the types we’d want to be giving our best to, if they aren’t unwilling to honor the boundaries we set for preserving our own wellbeing.
Of course, if there’s been the habit of sacrificing/compromising ourselves to please, then there’s a pattern there that can seem shocking to abruptly disrupt with the new path - their anger/discomfort coming from having their expectations of the norm rattled. Thus, perhaps necessary for some diplomacy in navigating the shift, given we do have some degree of responsibility for the response given it was our previous patterns which set up the expectations, and a maturity required to program the relationship field with the coding for the new boundary structures.
Or some shit. 😋
Buoyed, just meaning to be lifted--I'll share what lifted me and perhaps it will do the same for you?
Yes, always boundaries and also reaching out and trying new so we're not stuck in what we think is the right fence, or we may limit our growth. Such a balancing act as everything always is.
Yes, I think so: the only space from which we can truly offer an authentic vibe that’s actually serving everyone, what does that say if people can’t respect that? Probably not the types we’d want to be giving our best to, if they aren’t unwilling to honor the boundaries we set for preserving our own wellbeing.
And, as I get more firm in prioritizing my well-being I am surprised, not entirely, but a bit, at the speed of this moving. How fast what is around you, people and/or situations change.
And, EXACTLY that, taking responsibility for having set-up the situation by our previous patterns. Just had some hardcore practice with that last night and not so easy because if the other wants to stay status quo, they will do what they can to bring you back to the old pattern. We either love and grow together, because both peoples patterns must change, or we break apart.