One of the the most difficult - and critically-important - lessons I’ve learned: how to contain conversations.
Gauging when and where to put boundaries on what to share and not to share with whom.
Turning on the senses to determine what is and isn’t appropriate to go into at different times in different contexts.
These lessons didn’t come easy.
Rather, they mostly came through mess-ups.
Through saying too much, too soon, at the wrong time, to the wrong people.
In my youthfulness, there were many different things I was learning about, going through, and excited to share. But regardless of what brilliance I may have been opening up into, there was an idiot side to the savant. And often, I lacked the social intelligence to match my enthusiasm level for what I was exploding with where others were actually at.
Many times, I rambled on on tangents, oblivious to how far off I was with really connecting and communicating at a level that amounted to an impactful, meaningful experience of value-exchange.
Much time and energy, I wasted. My own, and others.’
But, I didn’t know any better.
Some lessons, you have to learn through trial-and-error.
The older and wiser I’ve gotten, the more I’ve grown to see the priceless scarcity and value of time.
Having spent so much on empty, confusing, distracting, impotent words, I’ve come to see the benefit of saying/writing less.
So as to jam pack maximum quality into minimum quantity.
Conveying the essence of an idea as succinctly, powerfully, and simply as possible.
There may be millions of directions we could take ourselves - and our readers/listeners - in while writing/speaking. But without limits, we may run out of time and energy before communicating what is truly most important to share in a given moment.
Life is meant to be lived.
Not spent eyeballs glued to computer/smartphone screens.
With information overload looming, the greatest gift we can offer others - in these worlds of social media, especially - is the honorance of their time. Or in others words: ensuring our communication is rich in substance, well-worth the time invested engaged in reading/listening.
There are so many things that have already been said, which really don’t need repeating.
And there are many discussions which may simply be better not had at all.
Ultimately, we need boundaries.
We need to resist engaging in petty dialogues that burn energy rather than cycle it upward to create more (if ascension in the game is the aim).
To play at the higher levels requires greater degrees of skill in energy & time management. Skills in quantum coding - multi-dimensional processes, within which the use of language is one.
We are spellcasters.
Each offering of words, a spell. A coding script, the blueprints of a program.
Without restraint, we may do far more damage than good, directing others’ attention and focus counterproductively.
With consciousness, we may serve others through invitation into perspectives and spaces in which their expansion is accelerated into the realization and thriving in Their Supreme Being, by reaction of the frequency of light imbued in the message.
With consciousness, we serve others in perspectives and spaces evoking the realization they’re A Supreme Being, as a epigenetic consequence of the frequencies transmitted.
But we gonna go back to parroting opinions now...?
And you can put that in your pipe and smoke it.
Personally, I never give anyone my opinion unless I am explicitly asked for it, and even then I often prefer Silence. I find any kind of debating absolutely superfluous because it is all about comparing, judging and getting out as the winner by word of mouth. For me, It is not about winning or losing, there is no better or worse, more true or less true, and I couldn't care less about others buttering up on me or lambasting me. Quantity doesn't make something more or less "right".
Unfortunately, so few people are good listeners these days, while most people always have a good cry on these few listeners' shoulders. They search for empathy but don't give it at the same time. The typical "taking without giving principle".
Too many people don't have the time and dedication to truly listen to others when they are entangled in their own quagmire. As I became more spiritual, I noticed how superficial exchange of words or small talk grew ever more futile and boring to me. It is like learning some phrases by Heart to initiate an artificial conversation by feigning interest.
Authenticity is the one and only panacea in social interaction.
Your words are true and logical
Wise strategy. 😇💖
Everyone at some point in their lives told a secret or an important message to a friend, family or an acquaintance. It all happened because we were young and knew nothing about keeping your dreams or aspirations to yourself. It's best to make people see the best in you by showing it to them through action and power. Most people turn to discourage you after revealing all your secrets and plans to them. They rather discourage you and steal your dreams or kill it.
Like you said @rok-sivante they are so many things said that do not need a repetition.
What each of us is going through now has been seen or experience from someone out there we do not know. Its all about researching and following up.
Always stay humble and silence. You are your own dream... create it, make it and establish it.
Thanks Very Much For This Message Of Wisdom @rok-sivante
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@rok-sivante sir...earlier i used to be Out spoken boy...used to speak without understanding the situation..later my dad gave an important lesson which helps me a lot....."always listen first , and then answer" this what he advised me...and belive me it is golden magical words and never let me down...ypu also need to judge the situation before speaking up...every communication have ita own limitations and boundariea.......ufff....hope i didnt wrote too much😉
Wise man, your dad was/is... :-)
He is.....👍 good to have such learning starys at home..
Effective communications in human endeavors can not be over emphasized, because that is when you get to understand If you massage is be properly decode by the receiver. Great post @rok-sivante
I have my own research on the behavior of people in the digital age, especially people who have fewer jobs. People with little work, little social responsibility are very easy to comment on other people's lives.
In this digital age many people are not aware of being a judge for others and always look for the faults of others. the level of bullying is digitally even increasing very high. for example, people can easily comment badly in one's post on the Instagram application. Well, in Steemit is certainly such people can we flag so deterrent. Unfortunately, the rapidly expanding social media has spawned fertile and insulting and no respect for fellow human beings.
my own habits to keep the communication in vain is as much as possible I always remind myself to post something useful, which does not spend the time of its readers.
and if I want to comment, then I must have a lot of guidance, at least not hurt and can educate.
Thank you for your post, and thank you for supporting Steemians in Indonesia. Vote from you is very valuable to me and my friends here
Incredible mr @rok-sivante. I envy you this writing. So good you explain how important a sharing is. frankly, i'm not very good at english, thanks google my translator try as hard as possible to understand this paper. The results I think are very good.
Here are the conclusions I can give from your writing.
Everything that is to be accomplished can not be so midahnya, must be through the struggles of responsibility. Trying as hard as possible despite the storm.
A good communication is based on good substance too, so all the time that is deployed is not in vain.
As humans think and have time tired, we need the boundaries of each dialogue.
That man is the supreme being of every transmitted epigenetic.
So a review that I can say mr @rok-sivante. May be useful.
Lastly, allow me to resteem your writing which I think is very personal. So it can be useful for humans who read it.
Thank you for the vote you have @rok-sivante give. I really appreciate it. This is a great appreciation for me, as well as an experience I will never forget. Would you master @rok-sivante befriend me. Surely I am a very lucky person in this steemit if you can welcome friendship from host @rok-sivante. Even though i come from indonesia. Or distance we are far apart, there is no harm in establishing a friendship through social media like this steemit. A tribute to the master @rok-narok as high as possible.
There is nothing I can give to master @rok-sivante besides I offer eternal friendship as well as trying to resteem every article from master @rok-sivante. I will do it from now on.
Warm greeting lovingly, from your best friend in indonesia.
@djamidjalal.
it's a long writing, but interesting. i'm not so good at eglish, it's a bit hard to understand. but i keep trying and i love these words
Wow. I was going to quote sth on the first paragraph but the more I read thw more I wanted to quote.
This is nothing short of powerful. Very relatable to me, particularly this part..
I have learnt the hard lesson both on here and outside. It may have drawn me a few steps back but I like to ecourage myself that it's never a regret, just another life lesson. I am guilty of spending too much of my time and energy whwn I really didn't have to. I am learning as I go by.
I don't know how I've ended up here, but I appreciate you and your input of this very crucial topic. One of the most important life skills one could master.
Thank you!|| Greetings from Nairobi,Kenya
I'm been guilty many times of the "too much too soon" to the wrong people. With wisdom and learning, I think that we get better at keeping our own counsel as we age
I couldn't agree more!No wonder they say old is gold...in other words, valuable.
Every human being is born with a shortage and without bringing anything to start life, but all of these things require so much learning and time to go, good and bad to attitude and deeds in youth will make learning and experience in old age, all to falsehood and to foolishness in the search for identity, will be its reflection as well as Inplementation into the conscious nature to give something new in reaching every dream, deep post for every line of words from you my @rok-sivante very admire it
In this life that we are, most times things dont go the way we planned it to be. but the most interesting thing about life is the ability to communicate and share good ideas and knowledge.
life is filled with series of challenges and with a good communication skilled and with full knowledge of what you really want to do in life one can become successful and achieve its set and desired goals.
I have learnt in life to socialized and be impactful to others that really needs my help.
I see communication as a key for unlocking barriers and settling diferences amongst individuals.
but so many people fail to acquire the power of communication and therefore they become tag as failures in life.
Thanks for such a great post @rok-sivante
One of the problems in communication is the language problem. in the virtual world, if we do not memahahi the language of the author, then the damage of one's understanding and broken also to communicate. Compounded again, where we are not able to read a person's body language in this virtual world.
thanks so much my brother @rok-sivante
I choose silence and do not say anything but the words of motivation from you:
I tried to open the blue print, and I found it very useful
in my country there is a saying goes: "Silence is gold", 'but silence when you have to say it is not gold'. trying to find friends needed communication though because humans can never live alone in the silence.
An amazing idea, I agree with what you have conveyed in this post. Essentially sharing between fellow very good impact for social life. Although I come from Indonesia who certainly do not know in English, I try to understand every word and sentence that you have to convey. really something extraordinary.
let me resteem this article. Perhaps useful to my followers who come from Indonesia.
Thank you very much @rok-sivante
Thank you very much for the vote you gave the master @rok-sivante, I did not expect from all the other steemian comments I was elected to be rewarded from you. thanks for this award. I can not reply. fore I will continue to see your post. maybe with your post resteem every time just a little I can reply. I know my followers are few, maybe not a big impact if I resteem your article. but I will do it anyway.
once again thank you so much sir @rok-sivante.
greetings and my love for you.
Key Time and Quantum Excellent communication. These words really motivate me "To play at the higher levels requires greater degrees of skill in energy & time management.". Thank you @rok-sivante.
Life taught me to make my heart city, their homes love, paths, tolerance, the most beautiful engineering in life is building a bridge of hope over the sea of despair.
your writing can be taken as a motivation for all writers in steemit
Please keep on mentoring we the new steemians and shed more light on our dark by releasing more useful contents like this @rok-sivante.
Thanks for this great post
very good reviews, proper communication and coding is very important. thanks for sharing
To be very candid with you, I don't have a clue on what you are trying to convey. I was basically attracted by quantum communications as in Physics but it seems more like your content is inclined towards metaphysics.
Does metaphysics not embody physics, the quantum equally as ‘applicable’ (for lack of a better word) in both as the distinction is blurred...? ;-)
If there was no headline/title, and you hadn’t gotten caught up in the expectations attached to your intrpretation of “quantum,” it’d be interesting to see the shift in your level of receptivity/comprehension...
Wow this post is really impressive
I tend to take the position of the very back of this space, take notes and put it in my mind, then work with what I have and perfect it with quality
While inputs like people filter the water with the filters they have, so do what we do, each running according to ability.
good feedback from @rok-sivante
Momentum and #quantum of an object could be human not yet fully able to their description, but in talking #quantum problem and the provisions of life of a person which in his haft will never be understood by others. but only his personal self is able to understand the extent to which he is able to overcome his and will stop when he must stop, and start doing it again so that a momentum in his life will return in accordance with his expectations and goals
I observe listen, digest before I even utter a word or even show my opinion in any discuss
I observe listen, digest before I even utter a word or even show my opinion in any discuss
I agree with so much of what you detailed here @rok-sivante.
I am someone who has also learned in difficult ways about the lopsided communications and the cyclical nature of the being coming into its own wholeness as an awareness-point.
It would be fine if many would take a vow of silence to learn the power of the spell. Every letter, every number, every word, all spells...
There is much to this.