Ah, this playground called "Earth..."
T'is quite a perplexing dimension at times, full of people doing and saying things that defy sense and logic. The chaos they create, the disorder they sustain through immature games that should have been left behind in elementary school, the pain and suffering they cause others through the projection of their own insecurities and ego complexes... really, so much bullshit backing up in the psyches of so many people that happens to leak its way out into their lives, and ours.
Yep. We've all encountered people and situations along the way whose unresolved baggage just infects your vibe like a sneaky, stinky virus - invisible and working on subtle levels, so covertly concealed that you wouldn't even recognize it if it were' for the sickness that creeps up from your insides the longer you sit with it infiltrating its way deeper into your system.
"Positive vibes" aren't the answer.
Removing yourself from the situation might and could be.
Though walking away still doesn't really accomplish anything. Yet, neither does engaging.
These may be kind of vague, conceptual, broadly-sweeping statements. However, there is an infinite amount of ways these dynamics could play themselves out. Thus, the open-ended nature of this conceptual presentation - from which you may imbed this analyses into experiences in which you may recognize them at play in your own encounters, upgrading the perspective through which you see and understand them.
People are odd creatures.
Beneath the masks and facades we put on to present to the world, there often lurks conflicts hiding in shadows which disable the potential of living from our highest integrity. We all have blind spots. And often, it's what lies in those blind spots that sabotages our maturation and success.
And sometimes, those unknown dilemmas buried deep in the subconscious come to play out in interactions with others, such that the conflict is externalized - and the source is manipulatively framed to put others at blame, projecting our darkness upon others, in order to maintain the illusion of control and self-righteousness with which we may continue propping up our facades in order to appear the "good guy/girl" to the world.
Such intricately-designed & controlled frames.
Sometimes, these psychological dynamics are the individual's. Sometimes, they're cultural - playing out through the individual. Either way, the result is frequently the same: problems.
Hangups in friendships. Clashes in social circles. Headbutting in relationships. Political battles in the corporate world. Wars between nations.
The human experience comes with an abundant supply of problems. Some, solvable. Others, not.
Sometimes, we can witness a conflict playing out between two individuals, groups, or in a scenario involving multiple players. There are times where the dynamics are clear, and the solutions are rather apparent.
Sometimes, with an elevated perspective, it is obvious that there is actually not even any "problem" in the first place. More often that not, a "problem" is actually just a label we put on a situation that fails to live up to our ideals, which we fail to see the broader scope and timeline in which the counterpart of a "solution" is self-evident as part of a natural process of the situation's evolution.
Or in other words, "problem" is the definition we give upon giving into the desire to make sense of a situation we don't have a broad enough understanding of to have already clearly seen what is required to evolve the matter to a higher state of order.
Often, it's easier to see solutions from an objective point of view.
Being personally immersed in a "problem" or conflict tends to distort perception. Emotion gets in the way. Cognitive biases kick in. The limits of our knowledge and awareness restrict access to information required to make full sense of the complete dynamics in play. Etc.
From the outside - looking upon others' conflicts from above - we tend to see larger patterns at work.
We can see what others may not. We may perceive depths of detail that become blurry to those who are too closely involved. From the elevated altitude, we may have a 360 degree view and understand what's going on in ways those enmeshed in the dynamics on the ground cannot.
And yet, even despite the clarity of vision - sometimes, regardless of how obvious the details of the scenario may seem, there still is no "solution."
Not even because the whole sense of a "problem" is a mere construct of perception within a restricted timeframe and scope. But just because there is nothing that really can be done other than sit it out, observe, and let the program unfold according to its course.
Maybe we can see the futility of our "world leaders" and corporate directors playing out their "who's got the biggest dick" games, fully aware of how ridiculously fucking simple the path to world peace could be. But, it's not our time or place to intervene.
Maybe we could see a clear, straightforward, workable plan to solving world hunger and assuring every person on earth has clean, healthy water to drink. But, it's not our role or responsibility to take on.
Maybe we can see conflicts playing out in the lives of those around us and see the astounding stupidity of childish behavior driven by repulsive bullshit psychological dynamics causing chaos. But there is no solution. Other than to just let it fucking be, take a step back, and practice that wise art of not giving a fuck.
And sometimes, maybe the "problem" is in essence, our own impatience.
Perhaps we've given mankind too much credit, expecting far too much of others' capacity for maturing to embody wise choices and actions that might seem apparent to us on our timelines.
Perhaps our vision is highly refined and we can see the futility of others' patterns and responses. Yet, perhaps our understanding has nothing whatsoever to do with the rate at which others are to grow and come to their own conclusions in their own time.
Maybe others need to fuck up, cause a shitload of chaos in the process, and beat their heads against the wall making asses of themselves - even when we could hand them simple solutions to their problems on a silver platter if they'd simply ask for them and be open to receiving and implementing them.
Or, maybe we don't know shit.
Maybe for all the clarity we feel we might have from looking at the scenario objectively from a distance, we're still missing vital details in the matter that can only be seen or understood from being right down there in the middle of the mess.
Maybe we haven't been looking at it all as objectivey as we thought, and our own bullshit lurking in our blind spots have been clouding our perspective, distorting what we see with the idea that solutions could be as simple as we'd like to believe.
The story continues... but not yet.
Given many here on Steemit have short attention spans, this writing has been split into two part. Thus, if you've been enjoying this so far, carry on HERE for Part TWO...
Shooting from the heart, raw and to the point, I love it! Thank for sharing. I often use the methods you point at at the beginning and remove myself form situations or people, in that case, that are either toxic to me and, as I label it so strictly for myself, I understand it as so with a grain of salt. I can't help but look at it longer and ponder the situation sometimes, bouncing it off of my own consideration or the ones of others trying to find creative-problem solving involving myself and the other ones involved when necessary, as it isn't always necessary or pressing enough to deal with things right away.
Looking forward to the continuation of your story, thanks again for an excellent write up. Namaste :)
Your welcome. and thanks for the thoughtful comment - as this site seems to be flooded with more and more generic "nice post" spam-esque ones, contributions to an expanding dialogue like this comment of yours are appreciated. :-)
You are very welcome, it is my pleasure really!
As you say, there is a new wave of users definitely in the spamming category that aren't quite yet used to be constructive as well as quite generic... I know I sometimes repeat myself, but it definitely comes from the heart and it is fully intended to be thoughtful, even if a person can't realize it.
Your response is equally appreciated and motivating, thanks a bunch. Keep it up, namaste :)
Fantastic post rok-sivante, and beautifully written with passion and spunk!
I think what you said is spot on!
I also think if you don't want to remove yourself from the situation totally that we need to clue up on Emotional intelligence. I am writing that post now ;-)
thanks for the split! lol ;-)
ha ha. though, quoted like that, it's still actually out of content, missing the emphasis on might and couldand the broader context of 'what if even that isn't the case...'
This is also for me the part that hooked me to the reading and propelled me forward. Namaste :)
The art of not giving a fuck...
.. I never was a very good artist.
Haha I really enjoyed this read.. seems like everyone has a solution to everything these days... just go check search through Facebook! LOL.The general message I took from this is simply “focus.” Thank you for this effort. I probably needed that self reminder. (:
Your welcome. Happy to hear you took away something from it which I probably never intended or could have guessed.
And of course, any art must be practiced. Few are naturals. Most require learning cycle after learning cycle to develop the skill sets to ascend from shit to mastery... ;-)
Thanks for that share it is nice to see someone getting to a nearly same point of view (=
for me the positiv vibes are the answer because throug them i get in contact with loads of awesome persons...
i tryed removing my self from the system but not society so at the moment I travel without anything more to confort myself as I can pack on my back and it has been the best decision for me.
sitting in the street and being a positiv vibration cheers up others and thous brings a little light in there day
Talofa,
Schnitte
Wow, loved this write up, especially the humor I got when I saw the picture of monalisa holding that RPG
lol. kinda of such a heavy subject, such a visual breather does well to balance out... :-)
Yah very true. Good work
@gabrielinnocent the artist is Banksy in case you didn't know. Thank you rok this writing is really interesting.
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Man this post is so timely for me right now as I find myself in just the kind of turmoil you are discussing. I don't have a short attention span, but I am impatient, and anxiously awaiting part two.
Thanks!
awesomeness. your welcome.
I'll be posting the second later today, shall post the link here to bump it into your "replies" section... ;-)
I would truly appreciate that very much!
Great post on reality check. But how to remove or walk away from such situation in digital world. I would like to disappear in such a situation, if everyone else just mind their own business and are not obsessed with micro-observation. If everybody has their own agenda by using social platform for making opinions and criticism without any facts or knowledge and wants to annihilate an individual, than i guess that's it. Everybody is creating chaos.
not everyone is creating chaos. many might be. though really, that's just cuz they don't know any fucking better. humans probably aren't as evolved as we've been led to believe.
the scenario of which you speak (write) is an opportunity.
yes, much conflict arises. and, in conflict lies the opportunity for resolution, increased clarity, and broadened perspectives.
sometimes conflicting viewpoints are good for us as they challenge us to think outside of our boxes. other times, they may present others a chance for their limited beliefs to be challenged so they can see new truths and angles granting them access to a wider range of information needed for their evolution.
it seems there were a few people who got hung up on that "walk away / remove" piece - which was really not at all my intention or meaning. rather, I'd encourage NOT always walking away - but engaging the conflict head-on to resolve the disparity (NOT attempt proving oneself right at the cost of proving the other wrong - except in the context of doing so where it may be of benefit to them for having their bullshit called, which probably would be best done diplomatically and gently in most cases rather than fuelling a war)...
REFRAME. it's not about a back-and-forth debate. but rather tackling the challenges for the benefit of all involved. and sometimes, one who is stubborn about their views might not be at all receptive to seeing differently - BUT by not walking away and continuing to articulate a stance which seeks to bring greater clarity to the situation, onlookers will have their own takeaways, and new standards shall be set for how to deal with such conflicts.
If someone is creating chaos, it could actually be a chicken-shit, immature move to walk away. Why? Because rather than confronting them about it and leading by example as to how one could responsibly deal with conflict, we've selfishly wanted to avoid discomfort rather than provide them the feedback they need to see the faultiness of their approach, so they're just likely to go on creating more chaos for others...
it may have seemed inconvenient and challenged the belief that we're better off "walking away from negative vibes," but it could actually be denying the other an opportunity for growth.
anyways...
Thanks for your point of view. My point was regarding moving on and i am not a liberal. The reality is out there and i am not altering it. But i am not going to let an individual propagate false fact about my work or a particular situation, based on the past or strong arm me.
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Better education would be helpful, and I'm not talking about the current public education and colleges, which are more like communist indoctrination camps. Ignorance plays a large factor in much of the social chaos we see playing out. Even when presented with the truth, these people choose to ignore it and instead choose to erase history itself as though their demented beliefs can alter the very fabric of reality.
Another part of the solution is to start institutionalizing the mentally ill again. The spread of liberalism occurred after they were set loose and began to breed and pass on their mental defects.
Age old dilemma, but I hadn't considered how impatience might be a factor. Thanks for pointing that one out, @rok-sivante.
wow... This post really hit home @rok-sivante Thank you. I am eagerly awaiting next part :)
Really appreciate you taking the time to post this.. I am sure this took a lot of research.
LMAO ! WHAT a great post man ... got to be brief, going to part 2 asap! This was a great post imho because it lays the blame, not just on the chaos creators, the stupid and ignorant, but on ourselves as well !
What I call the "Illusion/Delusion" conversation. You spell it out VERY well here !
ok ..on to Part 2 !!
thank you for reminding me, I'm not crazy ... well .. maybe not...
nice. feedback appreciated.
as they say, there's a fine line between genius and crazy. along the way, that boundary sometimes seems to get blurrier and blurrier... ;-)
Yes Indeed ! ...
"I'm up on the tightrope , one sides hate and one is hope
It's a circus game with you and me.
I'm up on the tightwire , linked by life and the funeral pyre
But the tophat on my head is all you see.
And the wire seems to be the only place for me
A comedy of errors and I'm falling
Like a rubber neck giraffe, you look into my past
Well, baby you're just too blind to see."
leon Russell Tightrope
I have a feeling you might find this framework of human value development interesting (and probably useful). http://www.spiraldynamics.org
Ah ha... I've come across Spiral Dynamics before though didn't get too far into it. Looks like it just got bumped up on the list to revisit...
congratulation friend awesome post.please follow me.we help each other @shiqder
I'm curious, what did u like about this post @shiqder ?
it's a bot response. look at his account's comments and there is an exact duplicate comment coming out on random posts every minute.
@steemcleaners here we come! ;-)
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