WHAT you SHOULD know NOW that YOU are CLOSE to GETTING married
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I will be taking the topic WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW NOW THAT YOU ARE CLOSE TO GETTING MARRIEDFacilitator : @sammyswt
When I first saw this topic I smiled because I saw that at least somebody is ready to make serious preparations for the future. You will agree with me that easiest way to destroy a society is to pollute or destroy the home front. Hence it is pertinent that we ensure our marriages work.
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Recently, the saying that marriage is hard work became tangible to me. I came to realize that for any marriage to work, we need much more than just the love between two people. There will be days when it will look like the love flew out the window. You need a strong sense of commitment and other ingredients to pull through those days.
Sadly, most people prepare more for a glamorous wedding than for marriage. Guys tend to focus more on making money for the family while ladies pour their love and affection on the children. This leaves the relationship between the couple suffering.
This brings us to the question:
What preparations do I need to make towards my marriage
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You must be prepared)
➡ Physically
➡ Emotionally
➡ Psychologically
➡ Financially
➡ Spritually
We shall discuss these points one after the other
Physical Preparations:
This entails working on your health to ensure you are fit. Most ladies leave their health issues unattended to. I recently met a lady that knows she has issues with her menstural cycle and iz doing nothing about.it. She will get married soon and not have a child and then sstart troubling God and her pastor.
One very important aspect we need to pay attention to before talking about getting married is our health.
Please go for medical checkups to ensure you are fine.
Not just fine to reproduce but also to stay alive long enough in the marriage. Buy things that will help you be comfortable. Get an apartment. Move out of daddy and mummy's house (especially guys). Be a man of yourself.
The next level of preparation will be Emotional Preparation
Most people get into marriage with a lot of emotional baggages. Heavy loads that weigh them down and drain the relationship. Be prepared for the leaving and cleaving the Bible talks about. Its not like you abandon your parents and all, but be emotionally prepared to cleave to your spouse so much so that he/she becomes the most important factor in your life. Grow up.
Stop being mummy's boy and daddy's girl. Lean to make your own decisions and stand by them not minding the consequence.
Then we look at Psychological Preparation
Most men have damaging idea of women and vice versa.
I don't have time to begin to mention them. We all know what we believe. What I am going to say is see your spouse as God sees him/her. The express image of God. And treat them as such
I believe the woman should not be debased for any reason but there is a limit to our feminist views. So, ladies watch it. Do not enter into marriage saying that I won't take nonsense. You will take more than nonsense.
Else prepare to divorce...
To be contd...
Marriage is really a very big responsibility and needs a lot of preparation mentally, emotionally, and financially. There are a lot of things more than just being with the person you love. Marriage is so sacred and only comes once in a lifetime so it is good to also have it the way you planned it to be. :) And you should always let God be the center of your marriage. :)
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Wow, I really appreciate your kind words sir.. You said it all
This post is interesting to me,looking forward for the rest
Wow! I love this a lot...cant wait to read more
Lol, you are welcome dear... Hang around for more
@sammyswt are you preparing for marriage?
yes oo.... My wife is from isoko
This is a timely piece especially for a guy like me who is at the age when parents start asking questions and giving you the face. It sometimes scares me but I know it is a bridge that must be crossed. Thanks for this article.
Lol, I can't wait to see you cross that bridge bro.. Am glad to have you here
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