Being in a relationship had taught me so much in my life and slowly I'm starting to learn that perhaps "fights" play an important role too.
There are often not even to be taken personal, but they seem to be a catalyst to create friction, tension, attraction.
It's one thing to live in harmony. But having it all the time - often seems to take the "juice" out of any relationship.
Especially sexual attraction can't exist when there are not two "opposites". Or, I'm asking myself; what's the point of a sexual, deep communion, when you are already in the bubble of "oneness"?
Maybe relationships are not only simply about harmony and about being "one" with each other but about the "dance" of getting together - and creating again a contrast.
This play is exciting. Maybe one day it won't anymore and I'll be joining Eckhart Tolle.
Yet to me there's something fascinating about that "dance".
For the dance to flow, arguments and small fights are not "relationship killers" but can be saviors. They are often not even to be taken personal - the reasons are invented. Not because you don't love each other, but the sense of insecurity can be so irresistibly attractive.
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When I was younger I would have agreed with you. The back and forth, the friction, the insecurity gave things a tang. And then the relief of making up again. Yes, I remember those days!
My husband and I have been married almost 39 years. Yes, we still disagree on things, even have arguments. But, without either one of us always giving in to keep the peace, we have learned to get to the point, communicate our concerns, suggest compromises, and move on. Insecurity and drama have lost their attraction!
SamIt's so good to hear this @donna-metcalfe. And apologies for the late reply!! I have been struggling with the internet here. But im so happy to read from you! Thanks fo sharing this! HOpe you're doing well!!?
I'm always happy to see your posts! Sorry your internet connection isn't what it should be. That is so frustrating! I did wonder when you didn't reply that I might have offended you, glad that's not the case! I'm perking along pretty well, hope you are the same!
Yess. I have only 2 gigabyte per month available at home :)) The paradise brings it's sacrifices. and i tried to use it as smartly as I can. Now I'm starting to visit more cafés again. Sucking from their wifi 😋 haha 😄It shoudln't have devaluated your comment. You know, it's SO GOOD for me to hear. To get feedback, to think and reconsider and learning! i'm so happy for this!
No, no, I wasn't dinged at all.
If you get coffee (or tea?) and 'free' wifi, I say that's a good deal!
Would you be able to use a mobile 'hot spot' where you are? I got one for traveling. The most they allow for a month is 10 gigs which is enough if I'm careful.
Oh my, I have opinions about everything! I also like hearing other people's ideas. Unless they are yelling at me. :-) I avoid those people here and in real life!
You're into Tolle as well:P?
haha, oh yes. The dear Eckhart Tolle ! :))) Sorry for replying so late!!! <3 I hope you're doing well!!! :)))
Sam
Ya you're ignoring me now 😏