"Remember children, for every exit there is also an entrance." - Milligan
The society has a major impact in our lives whether we except it or try to avoid it. We´ve been taught to look a certain way in order to be accepted by other people.
SKINNY = anorexic
THICK = obese
VIRGIN = too good
NON-VIRGIN = slut
FRIENDLY = fake
QUIET = rude
Society will always try to change us and make us feel uncomfortable about ourselves. I have posted a blog about how to be unique and this is actually a great topic to start with. Teenagers these days are definitely scared to be theirselves! If you would have a look at most girls from the age 13 to at least 18, they all have the same style, attitude, the way they walk, handle things etc. Thats because society tells them how to do it. I´ll give you some examples from beauty "gurus" on social media.
Huda Beauty
Huda Kattan is a blogger & make-up artist turned into a business woman. She has over 21 million followers on Instagram, over 1.3 million Followers on Facebook and nearly 2 million subscriber on Youtube. So with more than 24 million supporter, she is one of the biggest influencer on social media! Lets have a look at her appearance - big lips, bright eyes, much make-up, tiny nose, flawless skin, fake fingernails, perfect hair and no wrinkles at the age of 33.
Kim Kardashian West
Kim Kardashian is maybe the biggest influence to young women! With more than 102 million followers on Instagram, 30 million likes on Facebook and nearly 55 million followers on Twitter makes her the brightest sky in the beauty industry. What does she look like ? big lips, bright eyes, flawless skin, high cheek bones, no wrinkles at the age of 36, tiny nose, perfect straight hair and bronzed skin.
Kylie Jenner
Kylie Jenner is the youngest sister of Kim Kardashian. Of course she also turned into an influencer at a young age since her whole family got popular during their own TV show - Keeping Up With The Kardashians. She has over 97 million followers on Instagram which makes her a huge influence on others. Kylie is pretty successful with her own brand Kylie Cosmetics. Her company has made $420 million in retail sales in less than 18 months and she just turned 19! I am actually very impressed but I want to focus on her appearance right now - big lips, bright eyes, flawless skin, high cheek bones, tiny nose, silky smooth hair, a lot of make-up and an edgy thin.
Amrezy
Amra Olevič is a very talented make-up artist living in Los Angeles. She has 5.4 million followers on Instagram which means she is pretty successfulion doing what she loves - beauty! Her appearance is the same as of the women I mentioned above - full lips, a lot of make-up, high cheek bones, silky smooth hair, tiny nose and no wrinkles at all.
I could mention a few more but I guess you understand what I try to tell you right now. These women above are far away from being ugly. All of them are pretty in their own ways and also pictures with no make-up on aren´t even that bad. As far as I am able to judge their personalities through social media, some of them are struggling with the pressure being such a thriving person in the society and others are actually living their dream. But are these the right people to look up to? Its always about having the biggest lips, straightest and silkiest hair, tiniest nose and being better in all categories which they brought up by themselves. Counting those 4 personalities together, round about 300 million people are subscribed to their profiles which means millions of young girls chose them as an idol. Not to mention that most of those influencers also got boob jobs, butt implants, lip injections etc. I am definitely not a fighter against plastic surgery, if someone is really unhappy with their look and there is no way to naturally fix it, I am open for every decision and say go for it! But I am going to show you pictures of those individuals BEFORE they got surgeries and make-up lessons.
Amra Oliveč
Kylie Jenner
Kim Kardashian West
Huda Kattan
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Well, I think that all of them were amazingly beautiful and attractive women! It wasnt really a "shock" for me seeing the before and after pictures because these women had nothing to hide. Small lips, bigger nose, curly hair. Who cares? This is YOU! Its unique, special and no one will ever look the same again.
Why I am talking about those influencers is just because I want to protect the next generation, our children. Plastic surgeries have been getting viral and also girls under 18 are starting to cut theirselves into pieces just to look like their idols. Social media has created filters so you can hide your blemishes, uneven skin texture, dark circles or filter to brighten your eyes, pumping your lips or even change your skin tone. My friend @agent wrote an interesting post a few months ago where she explained those filters and this topic in general. We grew up in almost the same environment so my friend @mrs.steemit and I share the same thoughts just like Agent. Mrs.Steemit also wrote an interesting blog about beauty standards a few months ago which is showing you what girls are craving since last year.
In my opinion we should start educating our kids to read more often, to love theirselves how they were born, to be confident, enjoy their talents for example playing a music instrument or doing dance classes like I did.
I am not saying that the look isnt important. Our society is built on the appearance and yes, you should look neatly and cultivated but still be yourself. Now since Steemit is growing faster and faster, we get the chance to be the new influencer in this world. We have the choice to make a better life especially for the next generation.
Of course I´m not a mother yet but I still have a voice. I got to teach kids starting at the age of 4 - teenagers are asking me for advices and as I said, Steemit is such a huge opportunity in many ways. There is so much more than just "beauty".
Its okay to be yourself, it´s okay to wear not the newest clothes from the store, it´s okay to go out without make-up, it´s okay to be natural!
I recently read a quote which made me thinking about my life too!
"She needs make-up to cover up because society taught her who she is, isn´t enough"
To be honest with you, this touched my heart. So many girls are starting to cover their faces with make-up at an age where I still played with cars and dolls in our garden not thinking about beauty standards at all! What has changed? I dont want my kids to be scared showing who they really are, going through painful surgeries just not to look like who they truly are. Why cant we change society to love yourself and being different is COOL ?
I am pretty sure that most of my readers agree with what I am writing today. I have been around social media for a few years now, even if I havent owned an account by myself but I still checked whats "hot" and what is "not". The tendency of teenagers doing surgery is rising. Doesn´t matter if its about boob implants, lip injections, nose jobs etc. As I said earlier, I agree that some people are doing surgeries because they have such a huge problem their whole life which can be fixed in minutes. If you are happier then, do it! But people dont even stop with that. They want more and more which turns out to get something like an addiction.
These problems would never got into our minds if the society would accept flaws!
Why I named the header "Why we should work against society" can be well explained. Kids are going to be destroyed mentally and physically. If they do not fit into the picture of a "perfect" human being, they will fight against those feelings not to be enough for the rest of their lifetime!
Have you made any experiences with the quote above? Well, I did. When I was bullied at school I thought it was because of my look. I changed my clothes, switched up the make-up routine and chose idols who werent even confident about theirselves. I still haven´t the body I wish for but for me its all about being healthy, proud of who I am and fixing those insecurities in my head. If we are strong enough to start a new era of education, it will have a huge impact and benefit on our children!
📚 Thanks for reading 📚
Stay focused
Love, Soldier
Some good points raised in this article.
With all due respect, these are just empty platitudes. No amount of "educating" will block out the daily barrage of propaganda from Hollywood.
Btw, Kim Kardashian looks gorgeous without makeup, Amra Oliveč as well. Why these women put on so much makeup to distort those pretty faces is beyond my comprehension.
Totally agree, all of them are looking gorgeous without surgeries and make-up ! We should start with education but we need to change the whole view of society! As this social media here is growing, our voice is growing as well
Didn't Alicia Keys start going out makeup-free as of late to promote a more natural look?
No one ever liked me in high school, I never wore makeup , I did not do my eyebrows until I was in 11 grade . Man everyone thought I was dark and ugly because all of the popular girls wore short shorts and makeup all the time . They were favored while people like me sat by them self during lunch.
Man , society really judges you for what you wear , the makeup you have , and even from the littlest to the biggest things . These stars are suppose to teach us to be ourselves , love ourselves . But they are teaching us if we don't wear this makeup or dress like this , people will look down on us .
I promise , my future kids will be raised different , our society is so messed up that even 6 year olds now wear makeup . I mean why is society based on what people like ?! Why can't we all be ourself and express ourself in different ways, because man, if we were all the same , we would be very boring .
I want my kids to be happy of who they are and not end up like I did in school, bullied and always left alone . Man this brought tears to me..
Oh my dear thank you for being so honest! I love reading your opinion because I think we share the same thoughts!
I went trough similar situations but not because of my look which makes this topic not as similar as it seems. Being judged just because of the look is terrible and I will definitely teach my future kids the opposite! I am so thankful that people like you have found their path, stayed strong and are now enjoying life after all those issues!
Kids can be so mean especially during high school! If society would expect the way we are, non of this would ever happen to our kids !
I agree , this is why I always look forward to your posts !
I hope to teach my future kids and many other kids to just be themselves .
I will be stronger than I was yesterday , just like a @solider
Am following you now...i like your personality @journeyoflife
inspired by your story dear...you are right,in this era people have stopped doing what they really want....instead they emulate what other people pose as "right"
Its crazy. I had a friend who did surgery using loan money and now she us struggling to pay back that loan.
Wow crazy how life turned out right?
I mean if you have health issues or if you are struggling with huge difficulties, it´s okay to do surgeries but many people do it in purpose to look better which literally makes no sense for me because its also very dangerous
Life and karma are both a bitch. You will get what you deserve.
Its not always about the looks.
Thank you! Not many people have those thoughts, I mean many people are talking about it but at the end of the day they still care about the looks
Those people are selfish.
True
Great and very true post. It will take a lot of dedication and determination but we need to not be afraid to stand up against some of these societal issues. Thank you for sharing and keep steemin' on!
It really takes dedication and determination but we have a voice and since steemit is growing , our voice is growing too!
wow...such a nice post...upvoted as usual!!
Thanks, appreciate it
Wonderful post, never stop sharing.
Thanks for the motivation !!!
Don't listen to the noise around you.
Its not always the easiest thing if the whole generation of yours is talking about beauty standards and you should be the only one not hearing of what they say. I believe idols need to make the change ! But great advice, thank you
Play sports and dance you will be healthy and look good.
Yes you are very correct. I belief in from in to outside naturally beauty instead of artifical. Good one from you. It is a killer post.
Thanks appreciate it !!!! I agree, beauty comes from within !
Yah. just like yours.😁😁
Times have changed. Before the rise of social media and the internet in general teenagers didn't care that much about their looks and their style. That's why we played with toys and went outside to come back with mud and dirt all over our bodies. We didn't have smart phones and we didn't need facebook or instagram. We didn't need to look or act like someone else, thus we didn't need any idols. Teens nowadays are ruining themselves because their main goal is to look and be like someone popular while they should be trying to discover themselves instead. If this continues, we're just gonna see millions of empty shells, millions of society raised robots that look and act just like everyone else.
well done @trendo, couldn´t say it any better!
beauty is 99% in the social world.
Today's society is so obsessed with what other people think of them..
Great topic! This is such a big issue in today's society.
Young girls are experiencing so much pressure that they never really explore who they really are - they try to cover it up and "fit in" right from the beginning.
I think it's important that we teach the younger generation to set their priorities straight and make sure they understand that inner beauty is worth so so much more than appearance!
And thanks for mentioning me :)
Awesome! it's been an intresting read. Have an upvote, i hope to read more from you in the future!
have nice day ! happy steeming ^^
you can check my last blog about health here -> A zen return to the office is possible after holiday
https://steemit.com/health/@victorialuxx/a-zen-return-to-the-office-is-possible
Really i like your work @soldier
It's good to follow this up article. Bravo @soldier ceontinue
There will be more bungholes after me!
great job @soldier Nice poste
Good work and wonderful good luck
Nice post and i like post you @soldier
Thanks for posting! Being a mom of 2 young girls, I feel a great responsibility to ensure I set a good example and guide them well in this area of life. And balance is so key.
I believe this issue in general has a lot of root causes, a main one being issues with self worth. From having gone to a girls' school growing up, and being a mom to 2 girls now, I can see how easy it is for young girls to be influenced.
I definitely agree that it's time to make use of Steemit as a platform and for more women of substance to rise as influencers, because our girls need it!
great post
You're right @soldier, but looking at society....it seems like it's too late. It seems like everybody's doing it. The funny thing is that it's been happening right under my nose and I didn't even notice it.
I've never been the type of person to really like makeup. Whenever I see a woman with makeup on, my first thought is "I want to see what she really looks like"
It's getting so out of hand. People use makeup as if it's a necessity. But if people think that it'll make them happy, then nothing can be done. I just hope this world can become natural.
Maybe a Real Natural Beauty movement will help! You should start one @soldier wink
Very moving post I believe the beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. It certainly starts within helping young girls to love themselves and not allowing society to force them to make any drastic decisions too soon is the key. Once we do that then less pressure will be put on these girls regardless of there final decision
I think I would be the one who disagrees with you. Yes, you are right, opinion of society might create complex in person. But there is one thing, to improve something you need outside opinion. Working against society won't help, and you hardly can change anything in it, so it's easier to change yourself. Criticism is helpful if you want to get better, so you work to overcome these complexes. Always there is another way, you just don't give a damn about what they say, it might be a way too. And yeah, look isn't something of first importance, you should take care of yourself, but if you focus only on stylish clothes or sex appeal, its not okay. So yeah, if you want to solve it, don't work against society, just find a way, understanding, that's how you overcome. I like that topic, don't like Kim K, but topic is nice, good work
Teens have in common because they try to fit in into the small community they have. They copied others on their age to try to fit in, the social media also is one of the biggest influence why these group of people cannot appreciate a unique beauty God given to each one of them. In fact no one is exactly alike, even twins have differences
Thank you for talking about this and about being real humans! Loved it!
I love your post @soldier!
I totaly agree with all you have said I aIways thinking that we can not stop our children to do what they want like "watching what famous people do and follow them in their look or how they walk or what they eat ..." We can not hide the negative side of the society from our children But what it is more important for me is : educate them on accepting others even if they have different idiology, educate them to not judge people of their look, educate them on the tolerance and educate them to be UNIQUE.
Thank you @Soldier
This is one of the best and most deserving posts i have read on steemit. I couldnt agree more! I also dont have kids yet but if I do some day, I will definitely bring them up to question the world around them and help them stay true to themselves. Once they get conditioned by society and believe that they have to look or act a certain way to be good enough, it can be tough to uncover and change these beliefs. After years of trying to live up to a fake society, their authenticity would be buried away and they would be living a life to cover up their insecurities that society has placed on them which are just delusions in the first place. We are not our bodies nor our minds, we need to teach the younger generations this fact and help them to stay true to their true beings in order to prevent them from the mental and emotional suffering that is so prevalent in todays world as a result of peoples deluded conditioning.
Thank you @soldier for this interesting post. I am also a society fighter, I come from France in Europe but living in Thailand for the past 18 years. All the western society today is a world of propaganda. All the so called well thinkers are very dangerous peoples they build all our society on lies. If you take the medias today in the western world, the facts are less important than propaganda. Yesterday I was on a plane talking with a scientist he tells me that science made some big discovery but government propaganda make it secret and replace the discovery with one with lower impact. Also, most of the history written n the books is also made for propaganda. Today as I live in South East Asia I really feels like there is much more freedom of expression and much less propaganda here than in the western world. I can say what ever I want, if I was in my own country, France (the so called country of freedom and human right and free expression and expose the truth about the propaganda I will end up in jail. And what you are saying today is also a part of the agenda of the well thinkers. So thank you for exposing another facet of the propaganda of western world and how much it is important to help young generation to understand what there living in. Thanks again
We should try to accept our looks as it is unless we have some big problems. Thanks for a good post.
I really surprised that Kim Kardashian had 102 million followers on Instagram, 30 million likes on Facebook and nearly 55 million followers on Twitter. Today you give surprising factor to all of us. Thanx for us.....
Amazing post and something we all have to pay more attention to and teach the younger generation. I mean we all are made to be different, that is who we truly are, but like you said, this society is teaching us to be the same which is sad. First of all, I think we are failing as parents because all this bullying that is going on especially in schools I believe comes from not paying attention and teaching our kids about it. We have to teach them and show them love and how to love themselves by example. We have to start living our lives not trying to impress others who don't even care. We will never be perfect because we were never meant to be perfect.
Great article
now that was something very different and yeah time to be the change
thank you for sharing
upvote
"The society has a major impact in our lives whether we except it or try to avoid it". --. Well said
SKINNY = anorexic
THICK = obese
VIRGIN = too good
NON-VIRGIN = slut
FRIENDLY = fake
QUIET = rude
these low mentality people disgusting
Great stuff
Please keep on posting such type of content , so that these low mentality people keep shut on their mouth.
the one you be in school and the one you are later will be 2 differnt people. life is changing. thanks for the nice post
With the growth of social media, self-image is a 24 hour battle for many of these young kids. Seeing the popular, pretty girl getting 100's of instagram followers adds to the feeling of "not being pretty enough". I see many kids who just don't feel self worth and end up secluded and depressed. It is sad and we must do what we can as adults to help build them up when they are young and make them realize they are beautiful the way they are.
Great post as aways beautiful lady :)
That's sad thinking how our future children will grow up thinking beauty is defined by what is pleasant to the eyes. I believe that individuality should be respected at any rate if only people will be open-minded. I'm glad that there are still brave people who wants to work against the society. Keep it up, I'll support you.
Fantastic post! I loved to read it!
I took my time to read this post, and I agree with the writer. The society has influenced a lot of people today, you no longer do what you are happy doing because the society would not accept it, or because the society expects more from us.
It is time we change our orientation, it's time we learn that true beauty is not in facial looks and body shape rather in the personality.
For me beauty radiates from the inside, a beautiful soul with an ugly face is much much more beautiful that a beautiful face with an ugly/dark soul.
We are all created in God's image, what's the need for the make up and surgeries, John Keats in his poem "Ode to the Grecian Urn" said_BEAUTY IS TRUTH, AND TRUTH BEAUTY_