Wow...ok first off, it's true life is what you make of it. I always see life as being easy and people have the choice to make it difficult.
I know from personal experience, sometimes there is so much "noise" that I can't hear what my calling/will is.
You are hear for a reason, but you were chosen to be here. Maybe you are trying to do your will and not the will that was chosen for you to do?
It's not by accident we are all here. But we all have unique talents and gifts that we were given so we can use while living in this world. Stop fighting and getting confused over it and try to listen.
It may be extreme to change but
At least it in the right direction.