YES! Oh gosh i love the way you think! ( that’s why I follow you obviously!)
This last thing you said about love... so true! People push others away because they don’t think they deserve being treated nicely.
They have been treated badly in the past and got it all wrong thinking that is what they deserve.. so when they get treated like that again.. they think its ok.. and they think it is love what they are receiving!.
Their self steem is broken. Luckily there are ways to fix it.
I myself for instance.. had a really hard time talking complements from others. I would just not believe them and say to myself Immediately after hearing their nice words “ they don’t mean it, they are just trying to be nice. They are doing it because it is polite to say nice things about others “.
It was insane how often i would do that to myself. You would not believe it! Lucky for me I’ve been on such a journey that has helped me a lot in seeing my self worth. And understanding that people don’t just say things.. no one is obligated to be nice... they choose to because they like you or appreciate you.. so they mean it when they are nice to you.
I sometimes self sabotage still, but.. it’s way better now.