"You are your hell and your heaven too " -Osho
Like a dog chasing its own tail, we run around, trying to catch happiness as if it was catchable. And yet, it never comes to us in those times where we desperately keep our door wide open for it to come in.
Happiness prefers to catch us off guard. Hence why we probably fail to notice its very presence when it’s there. Ironically, as much as we’re suckers for this Happiness thing, we’re also secretly terrified of it. We’re terrified of Happiness because once it is there in our lives, we know that we will lose it eventually. In this way, there’s more to lose than there is to gain when Happiness is around.
The fact is that we are unhappy precisely because we aim to be happy.
This "want" creates expectations, and when there is expectations, there is an attachment to particular outcomes. And that’s where the problem is. When you are attached to the narratives in your mind of how things out to turn out, you open the door for misery to come creep in.
Because the moment things, people, and outcomes don’t fit the narrative inside your own mind, you feel like absolute shit and put the blame on whatever you feel like putting the blame on at the time.
But realistically, isn’t your own expectations that you ought to blame?
After all, isn’t irrational to think that the universe will cater to every of your wishes?
Even if we were granted such a luck, we’d probably end up as miserable anyway because of our inherent tendency to be endlessly unfuckingsatisfied.
Haven’t we noticed anyway that the more we desperately seek something, the less likely we are to get it? Perhaps there’s a lesson to be learned here.
Putting all of our time, focus and faith into one specific endeavor is risky business because if things don’t turn out the way we want them to, we will likely end up pretty sad and upset. The same is true for happiness. Anticipating anxiously its arrival will only make us horrible at handling it once that sneaky little bitch comes around.
We ought then to just take a chill pill, embrace the natural ebb and flow of life, and forget about this happiness concept that never brought anything worthwhile and permanent to the table anyway.
This is very well explained, so wish I could verbalize this as well as you have. Thanks for articulating and sharing.
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Awwww! Omg you're so sweet! That means a lot! Thanks so much! (especially because I was slightly second guessing myself with my writing in this post;))
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