"Numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it."
-Albus Dumbledore
Are you a professional pain number? Has escaping your problems become a lifestyle? Do you seek solace through unhealthy coping mechanisms? Running away from your pain is a race you will never win. In fact, by running far from your pain, you ought to injure yourself way more in the end. The truth is that if you don’t feel your pain, you can’t heal from it. And without healing – you ought to find yourself back again in your life caught up in the same destructive cycle that you are in now.
While walking through life, it’s natural for humans to cling onto what makes them feel good, and step away from what hurts them. When pain makes its way into our lives, we can’t help but look for something that can provide us with the promise of a relief from this excruciating suffering. It hurts too much to look at this pain straight into its eyes, so instead, we look away. Inadvertently, we add extra layers of pain by choosing to burry inside what needs to be brought up to the surface. This is the paradox of the human being. To escape misery, we inflict onto ourselves more of it.
" Why should I feel my pain when I can rather escape it? " is the deadly thought process that we hold onto. So we reach for all the ways that offer us a false sense of temporary comfort. And so round and round we go – stuck in this toxic feedback loop, that reinforces our belief that we should avoid coming face to face with our pain at all cost. It ain’t worth the risk. Easier to eat my pain away. To fuck my pain away. To enter a new dimension of life – one which doesn’t hurt as much as the one I’m into now.
Jumping from distraction to distraction, we hope that somehow, the pain will ease itself. That it won’t hurt as much. That it’ll perhaps disappear. Buying into these lies has never damaged us as much. As much as we want to believe the contrary – the next day, we’ll still be carrying this huge weight inside of our soul. It doesn’t matter how much binging we did, sex we had, drugs we took, money we spent, profiles we swiped, the pain we avoided will still be screaming for us to acknowledge him. We need to find the strength to sit with the discomfort. To give to our pain what it needs the most from us: our recognition and acceptance.
The cure for pain is in the pain , Rumi once said.
All this resistance is only keeping us further away from what we need most at this time in our lives – To Heal. To Grow.
Are you a professional pain number?
No but I have a feeling you might be thanks to that one or more guys. :(
I dunno what he/they did to you but on the bright side at least you're not with him/them now.
You're sweet.
There was once a time where I was a professional pain number.
Luckily I found my way out of the depths:)
Yep. ;) lol
You could make a professional pain number post or do a comment story.
I think you still show signs of scaring but hopefully your husband/babby daddy can help you with that someday. :)
awwww you're too cute! hubby maybe perhaps but LOL babby daddy nevaaa;)
👶👨4evaaaa! 🤣 lol
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We are weird beasts aren’t we? We run away from pain but yet define ourselves by the misery of our lives. It is like we are these strange little sadists that detest the pain but have to experience it to define our lives. Pain is a right of passage. We are going to get hurt. Our hearts are going to get broken. Those battle scars mold us. We just need to be aware of good pain and bad pain. If we continue to walk the same paths we are going to experience the same painful outcomes. We must grow from heartbreak and anguish, with out them, we can never be given the keys to appreciate the great things in life.
Wow. Absolutely true and so wisely said ❤️ I had to fall many times on my face to learn things the hard way.
“Those battle scars mold us.” Totally. Adversity builds character. ✨🧡