Some might call this harassment, especially if the situation was reversed!!! A guy is facing some unwanted attention from a female co-worker:
So, I've been in a bit of a situation recently: one of my co-workers (female, I'm male btw) started flirting with me. It started with her throwing things like "hey, beautiful", and I took it as a joke. But she became more and more pushy, and it is now a situation where it is a problem for me on several levels.
I feel this situation is really funny because of two points the person makes:
Tell her that I have a girlfriend, and therefore am not "available"
Talk about it to her husband, who doesn't seem to care
So they're both taken? I feel that a man who's taken will sometimes be more attractive, but in this case, the woman harassing shouldn't disrespect her spouse. Well, she is. This is sexual harassment by any other name and since the poster has requested she stop and she hasn't, the poster is left with few options. He lives in France and he'll have to investigate how the laws function there, if he wants to press the issue legally. He may only have this option left.
The funniest comment in this thread? This one:
Often, flirting by women (and sometimes men) is not a means of attempting to seduce you, but rather expressing a desire for validation.
I feel this is funny because no one would be posting this if the poster was a woman and the harasser was a man. She is engaging in inappropriate behavior in a work environment.
How do you feel about this?
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Harassment is not okay, period.
I also feel that responding with “I have a girlfriend/boyfriend/partner..” is not the best statment to use.
Using this as a response tells the harasser that his or her behaviour would be acceptible if you were single. It is a response that may seem easy to use, but more direct responses need to be said. “You are making me feel uncomfortable.” and “I’m telling you to stop.” cannot ever be misinterpreted.
I would suggest collecting evidence of the incidents and telling a boss/human resources to start with.
Excellent point!!! Even if he didn't have a girlfriend, it still would not be acceptable. Thanks for pointing that out.
You’re most welcome, and thank you for sharing the post. :)
Lol. The whole relationship idea it's not by force. They should be some level of self respect. Nice post, keep it up
Hi @steemquestions, I can feel how hard to escape on that kind of situation. If I were you, I will keep myself busy & avoid making conversation with her :)