My family and I just moved to a new city - the city where I have been working since November 2017. We decided to move to decrease commuting costs and increase the amount of time we can spend together as a family.
I have met some great people at work, but my family hasn't shared those connections (at least not yet).
Last Night Was Game Night
One of my co-workers and his family came over last night for game night. We played the best game ever - Dominion.
Our kiddos got along well together. We had a great night of food and fellowship, but as is the case will all great nights, ours had to end.
As our guests left, my youngest looks up and me and says, "What is her name again?" (referencing my co-worker's daughter). After I said her name, my daughter says, "I love her."
My kiddo's sweet expression is both genuine and innocent. And if I were to be honest, there are times that I wish I would say the same thing to my friends. Because when they leave, I miss them deeply. I desire community so much that my heart aches a bit when I have to say "goodbye" to people I really care about. I don't like when my friends have to leave.
Canceled Plans
So it was going to be back-to-back days of friends and fellowship. But as is the case in life, plans change.
We received word that one of my best friends (the best man in my wedding) and his family would not be able to come over due to a stomach bug that attacked his family last night.
Again I felt like something was missing. My family had so looked forward to more interaction with friends that we felt a little hurt inside when it did not place.
Social Beings
I firmly believe that life is not supposed to be lived inside a bubble. I believe that we were made to interact with others, not only for our own personal growth but also for the benefit of others.
I see how I need my immediate family (my wife and kids), but my spheres of influence extend to a larger family network, a close collection of friends, acquaintances from work, other believers from my faith-communityy, etc.
I believe that I was made to be in relationship with other people, so
- My heart aches when there are broken relationships.
- I feel sad when I have to say goodbye.
- I rejoice in the victories of others, and I weep when people hurt.
- I long to find people who I can invest in and walk along side people who want to invest in me.
- I desire genuine, authentic community life where I can just be myself.
Sometimes (even as an adult) I hate it when my friends have to leave!
This phenomena is not just an offline experience. Many of you have stood beside me (virtually) of the last year or so. You have walked along with me in some difficult times. And I thank each of you for that.
And some of you have been missing for the last few weeks (or months). I want you to know that I have noticed and that you have been missed. Because once you have experienced something genuine, a small piece of your heart and mind will not be the same when it goes missing.
Let's continue to build great relationships within the Steem community. Let's welcome our newest members so that they stick around. Let's show genuine interest in each other's lives both on and off the blockchain. Let's support each other so that we grow stronger as individuals and as a community.
Keep pressing forward. Keep Steeming!
@SumatraNate
yes, it is true, the annoying thing in life is when we have to part with a long time with friends and people we love, I also feel hate to say the word "goodbye"
Completely agree. Goodbye is a hard word. I prefer to say see you later.
I feel the same way, friend, it's hard to let go of our loved ones though he 's just a co-worker ... !!!, I rather say "nice to meet you"
Truly, Bonds are formed only when communities exist! When you stay in solitude, you wouldn't even experience any of those heart aches you do.
I do not advise anyone to stay in solitude, rather i do advise people not to always be emotionally attached to people around us. I have had my own share of the heartache too.
Being in a community brings both joy and heartache. It seems that staying in solitude only brings heartache. I will choose community. Thanks for your comments.
Ikatan saudara / teman orang Indonesia lebih erat lagi bukan?
kita memang perlu untuk punya hubungan dan teman, sudah kodrat kita sebagai makhluk sosial. seperti yang bapak bilang.
Kita semua perlu saudara dan teman (di AS juga), tapi saya sudah mengalami interaksi dengan orang Indonesia. Memang itu sesuatu yang khusus.
Good-bye is not a word that I use often in my daily life. It seems so final. Our language is rich in the ways that we can express ourselves, so why use a word that says it is an end?
Great point. We need to challenge our brains to find the words that truly express the moment.
Your work is good. Which have been doing for a long time
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