*Disclaimer: The following is by no means to be identified as science based truth and is 100 % my opinion.
»Stay the way you are.«,
»I wish you'd never change.«
Ever heard those line? I'm sure you have. And I bet you felt good hearing them. They are a common staple where I live and you hear them everywhere from birthday congratulations to what your girlfriend tells you before you go to sleep.
But should you really... stay the way you are?
Above mentioned statements give you false praise stating you've already achieved your best potential. They give you positive feedback, sure, but at the same time they limit you. They tell you you can't get any better. They tell you you've already achieved everything there was to achieve. They give you an excuse to stop pursuing your goals.
I'm not saying never be happy with who you are, or not to be satisfied with what you are like. I'm trying to tell you the following:
- You are already awesome.
- You hold the power to become more awesome.
- You should try your hardest to become more awesome.
- It's okay if you mess it up at times.
Which roughly translates to you telling yourself every day:
- I love myself
- I hold the power to improve myself
- I am trying my best to improve myself
- No matter how many times I fail, I will continue improving myself
BUT DO NOTE: Only YOU have the power to improve yourself. There's noone out there to do it for you. It takes will. It takes a tonne of time. You will find yourself stray away from your planned path. You will want to quit. You will cry and sweat over it. But at the end of the day:
YOU hold the power to GET IT DONE.
But before you close this internet tab and go out blindly chasing your goals, I have a little more to share with you:
KNOW YOUR GOALS
Your goals can be as simple as getting out of bed in the morning and as complex as winning a nobel prize, but you need to know those goals all the same. You need to know what you want.
But let's be honest, making a list that looks like this:
- I want to have more subscribers on Steemit.
- I want to have the hottest girlfriend there is.
- I want a good paying, easy job.
- I want to look like a fitness model.
Is highly unlikely to motivate anyone for longer than a couple of days. So how do you write a list of goals?
Instead of just stating what your endgoal is, give yourself little missions that will bring you closer to your final goal. Identify what you can do TODAY that brings you closer to your ultimate goal. After all, you don't walk into a gym and try to bench 100 kg the first time you lay on that bench. You start with smaller loads and work your way up to what you first had in mind and before you know it, you can lift 105 kg. It's the same thing with video games and experience. You can't just rush to the last boss and beat the game, can you? You need to invest your time into levelling your character up, sometimes grinding one same thing over and over and over again.
So in order to keep you on track, try and make a list of goals that looks a little more like this:
- Study the people already successful on social media.
- Read at least 5 good articles on Steemit every day.
- Read at least 1 book a month.
- Post at least 1 good quality article on Steemit every day.
- Participate in contests whenever you can.
- Make yourself visible with high quality replies.
All of the above fall under the category of »I want to have more subscribers on Steemit«.
The first three provide you with the tools neeed to create good quality content, and the latter three is you providing that content. Many people ignore the first three, because they feel they are not (as) important.
What's awesome about it is you now have goals you can accomplish and put a tick at the end of your day. You get the satisfaction of having completed a goal and at the same time you're working toward your higher goal. It's a win-win situation.
Now, it's highly unlikely you are going to have the time to do everything you have probably written down at first, so you might have to sit down and choose the goals you truly wish to pursue and focus on them 100 %.
Also, I guarantee you will catch yourself thinking over time that your written goals are a stinky pile of manure that will get you nowhere and you will want to stray from your plan.
Don't.
That's you looking for excuses to give up.
The way I do it, is I update my set of goals every three months. Then for three months straight I stick to what I've written at the beginning of quartile. I feel like three months is enough time to show results, be it positive or negative. I keep the positive, discard the negative and write down some additional ideas. Then give that a try in the next three months.
Remember: You're constantly getting to know yourself and you're constantly improving yourself. There's no way for anyone to tell you what suits you best at any given time. And because you're always changing, the method that works for you today may no longer work for you in a year or two. So don't get stuck in your habits. If something becomes obsolete, it needs to change.
I say keep it close to you at all times and for the sake of wear and tear it's about to face, get it wrapped in plastic (or just put a layer of transparent tape over it like I do). Keep it in your pocket or your wallet or wherever you want. But keep it close. You want to stumble across it as many times during the day as possible. If you keep it in the same pocket as your phone then everytime you reach for your phone, you'll catch a touch of your goals.
Also read it at least twice a day. Once when you wake up, and once before you go to bed. So once to remind you of the things you need to do today, and once to remind yourself of what you did do today. Every time you are bored and don't know what to do, that little piece of paper will remind you of your goals and tell you what to do.
"But @svashta I'm stuck in a loop."
Sadly many of us face this very problem. We climb so far away from where we've been only to slip and fall back to where we started. Remember how I mentioned before that it's okay to slip at times? That's because it is. Each and every time we've tried and failed, we learned something new.
So now it's time to get back on our feet, reassess our plan and try again. I cannot stress this enough; don't try the same strategy over and over again if it didn't work. If it is obsolete, it needs to change. Try finding new ways to challenge old problems. I guarantee one day you'll succeed. But only if you put in the effort.
A lot also comes down to the environment you're in. The atmosphere of the room you're in greatly affects the way you feel. The people around you greatly affect the way you feel. It's the environment around you that can give you power to change, or take it all away.
Changing yourself is most likely the hardest thing to do.
But it's well worth it.
Thank you for the inspirational post...Feel better about mnyself already...:)
I'm happy to hear that! :D
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hey mate top post I reckon its all about putting a vision board on the roof of your bedroom then you wake up everyday with all your goals and outcomes you want to achieve staring you in the face. It works really well and tends to make the things you want happen!
Never tried a vision board above my bed, but you raise a solid point indeed ^^
This is helpful,delightful and educating, i like this am expecting more of this.
I'm glad you enjoyed it! :D There will be more so keep your eyes peeled!
You really did wrote @svashta and neshto here :)
Keep up the good work :) Serb says hello from Thailand :)
Luci
Hahaha :D Indeed I did! :D
(for everyone who doesn't speak any of the Balkan languages: "You really did write everything and something here. Although everything is a rather bad translation of "svashta")
Will do and thanks! A Slovene hello to you back to Thailand! :D
Most acceptable translation would be:"You really did wrote a lot of different things here , but there is something to it." Unfortunately Balkan languages same as Russian, cant be processed by literal translation, it would be really funny and nasty :) It would be @svashta and neshto :) ahahahhahahaha
Cheers
Hahaha yeah, true. I never even find proper words to explain "svashta".. it's a word that just... fits everywhere. :p
Thanks for the guidance. I will stay as I am.
The choice is all yours, @shrivastava.sud
Way to start a day! Checking on Steemit before heading off to work, browse a little through the feeds looking for promising articles whilst sipping my coffee. I am really impressed how you managed to combine tips to boost your self esteem with tips on how to grow on steem. Haha I think I know what you did there ;)
Im happy you liked it! :D
Yeah, I figured it's what most Steemit users want; more followers, so I decided to include that and try to better reach out to you guys ^^ and also tried to convey the importance of quality posts, not just posts. A high quality post a day beats 10 mediocre posts. Period.
Hope you have an awesome day mate! :D
Ah, great article. Thanks! I found something cool yesterday -www. unitedintentions.org. It's a place to write out your goals, intentions, old beliefs, and new beliefs. I just started implementing the website yesterday, though, the other I had been doing with a word document and tweaking it here and there. It's really amazing to see when a goal is realized.
I'm happy you liked it!
I'll check it out when I get home since I'm on mobile now.
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STOPThis is awesome! We should always be seeing way to better ourselves :)
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it's important to improve ourselves bit by bit, then we'll see the better version of ourselves. like @svashta 2.0 ~ 3.0 ~ 4.0 and so on, :D good post