I agree with you, but you are fully aware that it would be possible do get into big tournaments and that you want to spend time and energy in other activities, which is great because to get the best of what we can from life you need to say no to a lot of things to make space for what you enjoy the most.
The problems is that many others truly believe they aren't capable at all, that they wouldn't be capable of even if they tried, they use different reasons to justify.
Example of reasons to justify:
- The world just won't let me do it doesn't matter what I do or think about myself
- You need to belong to this group and I can't change their mind about it
- I just wasn't born for this
- It's too hard for me, I'm not smart enough and never will be
The post wasn't a criticism to people that say that in general, I say that all the time. As you say we use it in a general way to say that we don't want it enough. My point was to question the moments when we say that about the things we truly want and would be willing to put the time and effort to achieve if we at least believed that it was possible. Sometimes we don't truly think about that, we over simplify because we don't find a clear or simple enough path and just accept it can't be done.
Thanks for your contribution, I truly appreciate it.
I do like your point that we don't think about it sometimes. It could very well be a destructive line of reasoning, assuming something is impossible. Say something is impossible enough times, and you might end up believing it actually is.
I think it's never a bad thing to stop and think about how we use language, and your post touches upon that. Perhaps people should refraing from saying something is impossible, and instead consider if that's truly the case, or if they just don't really want it all that much.
Cheers, have a nice day mate!