What you pose is very much so. It's only selfish to someone if they can not get you to bend to their will. Taking care of oneself before taking care of others has long been thought of as being selfish, but is it truly?
Yes there are situations it can be. Like with the oxygen mask. If you don't use it first...you can't help others and you cannot depend on someone else taking care of you. Yet to constantly think of yourself like, oh I like those shoes they'd look great with this dress I have, but I haven't bought groceries yet or paid the electric bill. That to me is selfish. To put your materialistic needs before anyone or anything else.
Great post @donna-metcalfe so glad @asapers featured you!!
You bring up a good point. Because yes, I agree there are people who really are selfish in that they only think about what they want and that's the only important thing to them. Maybe it is a human thing because little children start off that way, grabbing at everything and saying, "Mine!" As they get older they learn about sharing and giving, but maybe a little bit of that stays inside?
Thank you, I love @asapers!
So very true. Sadly, some never learn that lesson. I love my husband to pieces. He isn't really selfish, but admits he is very much in to self-gratification. If he wants something he gets it! There is no discussion, I half the time don't find out until I stumble across it. It hasn't broken us yet LOL.
LOL Now I'm not sure if it's a human thing or a husband thing!
Early in our marriage I noticed that if he wanted something (buy something) he would just buy it. If I wanted something there would be a discussion about whether I really needed it. :-} (We were both working and earning money so that seemed extra unfair to me!)
Somewhere along the line he picked up on the saying "Happy wife, happy life" (I don't think it was from me?) and decide it was a good saying.
We decided to set a budget, equal to us both, that allows us to buy things (within reason) with no discussion or explanation.
Of course he still makes comments that I have too many books, but that's just silly. =-0
LOL sounds so similar to us but he never got past the 'I want it I buy it' phase. It has changed to him telling me that. But then I do have too many books, coloring or artistic supplies LOL. Go to buy clothes..I can't do it LOL.
He does buy me more things, which can be nice. It seems he's kind of adopted the same philosophy. He's more willing to do things that I like than he used to.
Proof that humans (and husbands) can change!
It is a very good sign that he is becoming more generous over time. (Often it works the other way, which would be a bad sign!)
I'm sorry, I do not understand the concept of having 'too many' books - or 'too many' creative supplies! :-D