First of all, I want to congratulate all those parents who day by day fight for the well-being of their children in an honest way, striving to teach them the moral principles of life and provide them with an adequate education for a profitable future, to all of them: Happy day! !
Many will say that they have or had the best father in the world, others will say the opposite (that they had the worst), but some like me may not be able to comment on the one who fathered them because they never met him, the reasons may vary but in my case was because he died when he was only 10 months old.
I rarely like to talk about my private life, but I think this time it's worth it because today is a special day, so I want to introduce you to the best Father of all and not as something I repeat because I heard it from others but as something I've experienced in my life during these almost 37 years that I have been going through it.
COULD YOU MISS SOMEONE YOU DID NOT KNOW?
It's hard to miss someone you've never met, the impact my father's death had on the family was profound across the board, we were 7 siblings and the eldest was only 12, the youngest me 10 months old . My mother was left alone because there was no support from the rest of the family. Our economic state, well, it goes without saying what anyone can deduce, we went to extreme poverty.
It must have been hard for my mother, but I... a child (from my memories) innocently happy with what I had in life, the love of my mother and the joy of playing with my brothers, for me it was enough to be happy , I never worried about where the food would come from (it's not something that children think about) and well, it was never lacking.
I have always known the story of my father and that he had passed away, but you cannot feel a story that you have not lived, for me it was just one more person, as if they told me the story of Simón Bolívar or that of any other person, at any time. case could not miss who was not there.
FEELING A VOID
But we grow up and in the process we observe the condition of others and begin to ask ourselves questions. Maybe I was around 12 years old when I started to see my schoolmates bragging about the experiences they had with their parents, how they gave them gifts and took care of them, noticing that was what made me feel that maybe something was missing.
Where is my father? Why was the privilege of knowing and enjoying him taken away from me? How different would my life have been if I had not died? It would have been better?. Questions like those began to torture me day after day like something I couldn't get out of my mind.
And when I least expected it, there I was, upset with God because in my opinion he had been unfair to me and with a lot of anger in my heart I dared to reproach him for everything I was feeling and thinking. It was then that God spoke to my understanding, yes, it is the way God speaks, making you understand.
And the memories of my childhood came to my mind, the one in which I was always happy and smiling, in which despite the tragic circumstances there was never a lack of food, clothing or health. It was then that I was able to understand that I was not completely orphaned because that Father had always existed for me, only I had not noticed it. God was supplying that role in my life.
AN UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
After understanding that I had to look down and acknowledge my ingratitude, we can read in the scriptures how great God's love is for humanity and how he presents himself as a Father with unconditional love, even though we see things daily that he did so that we have well-being, we do not pay attention to them because they are part of nature and everyone enjoys these things equally.
But when you review your life from the most public to the most intimate of your being and you can notice its traces, you realize that it is always there even when you don't ask it, or worse, when we are bad children.
A CHANGE IN THE WAY OF SEEING LIFE..
My life changed in many aspects since since then I began to take him more into account, thinking about how bad he must have felt when he did so many things for me while I was unaware of his existence.
Many years have passed since then and I have had the privilege of fathering two beautiful daughters to be able to experience the experience of being a father, but also life has wanted me to take care of an orphan girl who has lost her father when she was a girl ( my niece) ..
I could say that I don't know how to do it well as a father because I never had one to learn from, but this would be a baseless lie. So I try to imitate God in his way of loving us as children, and I suppose that the happiness expressed by the girls can testify that things are going well.
Life does not give us a manual on how to be parents and sometimes we want to do things trying to imitate the one who is or was our father, however in the process we can imitate bad things that can end up harming our children and even ourselves.
I think that the perfect Father is God, in this sense if we want to imitate someone or try to be good parents we should imitate Him, but this is only possible if we can know Him.
My life would have taken a totally different course and perhaps a very bad one if I had not been aware of this reality.
Today I have a lot of love for my daughters and I can see how I have achieved so many things in my life thanks to the fact that this peerless Father has always been there despite my mistakes.