Hi friends,
as the title says: I slept with 2 of my best (male) friends.
Now, in this post I would like to explore and justify the motives as to why I did this. If you're hoping for an explicit, sensual story, then I have to disappoint you. That is not the aim of this post. It is not about how it happened, or what happened. You can all imagine that well enough. No, what I want to talk about is: why?
Dear friends, boy or girl, I don't know if this feeling sounds familiar, but I, for least, do sometimes feel a certain (sexual) tension/desire, when among (one of) my male friends. Not all the time. Mostly, the feeling appears out of thin air and before I recognize what it is, it's vanished already. But I realize it has been there and I notice it happens more than just once.
So, a few days ago, I decided to give into my desires and get intimite with a friend. At first, I thought it was going to be awkward, since you've know each other for a while and you've always seen each other as friends, which implies there's a certain line you do not cross. No, to be clear, it wasn't like the both of us agreed "tonight we will have sex". No. What it was, was 2 people giving into a mutual desire. I wanted to give myself to him and, I assume, he wanted to share himself with me.
Now, there's actually 2 lines being crossed here. The first one is seeing each other naked, as friends. Well, I mean as friends of the opposite sex. (I've seen my girlfriends naked plenty of times.) But, obviously, it's totally different to undress/be naked in front of a male friend (as a lady). Yes, that seems awkward, but what I realised, once your in the moment, is that it's not awkward at all. In fact, at least that is how I see it now, we only convince ourselves that it's awkward. Indeed, it's only awkward in our minds.
The second frontier is, of course, touching each other (here and there...) and getting intimate. Well... that too, once you're in the moment, is absolutely not awkward. Again, the resistance exists in our minds and, as with many things, you just need to let go and surrender to the moment...
What about the morning after? Did I feel guilty? Awkward? Honestly, I thought I would, but I didn't. In fact, instead of feeling awkward when I ran into my friend, I felt really at ease around him. More at ease than before. Because, I think, the sexual tension got lifted. We had done what both of us wanted to do. We had shown ourselves in our most vulnarable to each other and now we could be around each other without there being some secret between us. In fact, our bond seems to have grown stronger. So, in a bizar way, I am happy we slept together. And because of this feeling, I gave into my desires towards another male friend. He and I too, feel sort of 'liberated' towards each other now.
And, no, both of them don't know I've been intimate with the other too. I don't see a reason to tell them. Well, there's this little voice inside my head, telling me I should be open to them about it. Yes, I probably should, because, you never know... what if they find out from each other. I am reluctant, for the moment, but somehow, in this case too, I believe it'll bring the 3 of us closer together (in a bounding kinda way) if we could share this truth.
I guess I'll tell them one of these days. And I'll tell you how it went...
Night!
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Keep checking my posts, as this story is far from over...
And check out the rest of the story:
https://steemit.com/life/@unitedworld/i-slept-with-my-2-best-friends-part-2-why
https://steemit.com/life/@unitedworld/i-slept-with-my-2-best-friends-part-3-you-are-a-ho
Nice story.. Not sure why you stopped detailing the second encounter, surely you experienced some different conflicts there.
There are quite a few modern day philosophers that talk about human contradictions like this, Stefan Molyneux is one of my favourites. Has helped me when going through something way more complicated than yours, complicated for me...
not my place to give you advice, I just want to go and say, if I was you depending on what intentions you have about these 2 guys, if none is serious, I wouldn't even bother thinking about telling them... if they find out they would just realise none of them meant anything more than that act to you, as long as you're ok with that, look forward, not back
Hi, you bring some interesting insights! Thank you. I agree that people should forward, rather than back, but I also believe my friends deserve to know the truth and that it is me they should hear it form.
Why do your friends need to know about who you have sex with? Of course if YOU feel it's necessary to fuck and tell, that is your prerogative, but your friends don't have a "right" to know and neither do the two guys in the story. In my view, telling them would come across as very "highschool" or drama creating. Any sexually experienced person knows that sex is truly "no big deal" 20 minutes after you're done. It's the EMOTIONS that are a big deal and these emotions are what actually have a lasting impact on individuals and have the potential to change us profoundly. Positively and negatively. Sex is fun, it feels good and is just a natural component of being in a body. Only society makes it weird/shameful/fucked up/dangerous. I vote keep it to yourself.
Hi @zenbit. I appriciate your motivated opinion. However, I, personally, believe that my friends do have the right to know. I know there are different views, but I am not the person to hide this kind of event for my close friends.
Sleeping with a friend sounds nice! If only I had friends that were female and not just silicon (damn rigs)!
I actually feel sorry for you bro!
I'm tempted to feel sorry too...
Lol it's probably for the best no one does!
Well gee thanks lol!
nice
Thank you :)
You're a ho. End of story.
As I said in my follow up post: I am aware some people may judge me. You have the right to your opinion, as do I have the right to live my lofe the way I chose (as long as I don't harm/hurt anyone). L.
The society that we live in is so judgemental that we don't give a fuck about what makes others happy, but we want to tell/teach and enforce what's moral and what's not upon them. From her post, she expressed how glad she was to have done what she did. Isn't that enough to let people like @moonliightartist know that she lives her life and decides to do what to do in her fav It's easy to throw stones and hide your hands like you're some saint or angel. As smart as @unitedworld is, she is reasonable enough to accept @moonliightartist's opinion, which shows that she is smart and reasons beyond the social norms and mind cages that most people live in. @unitedworld, I respect your courage. Not everyone is bold enough to face or own up to what they feel, talk less of acting on it.
Hi @simeonburke, thank you for your well put comment. Sadly, it is true. We live in a "point the finger/put the blame" society, where people condemn what doesn't match there norms, rather than accepting that we all have the right to be and act different, as long as in doing so, we hurt no other.
So you've slept with only 1 or 0 people in your life?
LOL good for you, not very artistic tho. .
Disappointed with your name!! @moonliightartist
Get your dick out of your dog.
Not everyone concedes to a "ho" lifestyle.
You don't really excel in bringing a motivated opinion, do you? I am open to hear and consider your thoughts, but, for the moment, all you do is judging...
Alright, that's it. I'm tired of ALL of you obsequious, pansy, cucks harping "DON'T JUDGE!! waaaah". If no one judged, we wouldn't have a justice system to condemn evil as well as tell a spade a spade. The only motivated opinion I'm bringing is the TRUTH. Your actions match that of a WHORE. You slept with not one, but two douchebags, out of marriage on a whim. I don't care about feelings, especially yours, but try thinking logically. You slept with people that you had a platonic relationship. Try asking yourself,
3)What self respecting guy, is going to want to marry you? You spread your legs to two guys.
5)Do you think your guy friends still have respect for you, after you were an easy lay?
In conclusion, you can call me negative till you're blue in the face. But, you can't erase objective fact that you're a ho, end of story.
@moonlightartist I have only slept with one person, my husband, but I have many male friends and have dated/been attracted to some of them in my lifetime. I think if I'm being honest I would feel judgement towards someone who was having casual sex with someone that you just met in bar. I was raised to be a bit defensive as a woman and I'd think it was dangerous to put yourself in that type of situation. I would still keep that judgement to myself because it's not my business and your comment is as constructively productive as any other type of cyber-bullying.
But what is a relationship is not a friend that you are romantically involved with? @unitedworld likely already has an emotionally intimate relationship with both of her friends. For two consenting adults to make a big decision that risks impacting their entire relationship... that's all a bit more deep than being "a ho."
Hi @ectodoobie. Very nice post. Thank you!
I would never judge you for your indulging in a desire. Because I think people should do what makes them happy . What I think you should seriously consider before telling them both is not how it will impact your relationship with them but if they are also good friends which I am assuming they are you need to think about if it will hurt their friendship.
Thank you!
Good to see you are following up o your last post. I'd say, very clever. You will def pull a large follwing when interested users catch your drift.
My op: Well isn't this awkward. If they are expecting more than just a sexual relationship then this can get pretty messy i.e if they are in way over their heads. Otherwise I can see something like a 3some in the future. Ohh well, as long they don't make eye contact. Enjoy though ;-)
Hi Newton, thank you for your reply. Yes, I am afraid the very moment when I will tell them's gonna be really awkward. that's what's holding me back. But, eventually, I think being truthful is the best.
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Why is your picture Victoria justice?
Europeans being Europeans nothing new XD
You are the only one that called it. No Values, No Morals, only self centered selfishness. There is always a trail of "hurt" unless you don't value yourself. Sex is for making babies. DNA between men and women begins to change the woman to prepare her to carry a baby that has foreign DNA. Feelings should be put in it's place and VALUES should prevail.
I'm glad you voiced your experience of the sexual tension between male and female friends. It's something that is either totally ignored or totally blown out of proportion. However, I think it's interesting that sex is something you're able to just "get out of your system." Usually when I'm good friends with someone and I have sex with them, I crave it even more!
If you are now so bonded with each of your male friends, and they knew it was casual sex for both of them, I don't see any harm in telling them the truth. It will add a level of openness and honesty to both of your relationships, and maybe to theirs as well.
Hi, yes, I totally agree!
You may have found a niche. I see a following forming. Good job. People will definitely check you out. Interesting and provocotive topic. More "classy, " upscale pictures of you with "good taste" would be great marketing. That , with your topic, would be a winning combination. Just tips for thought. Good Luck.
Hey, thanks for the tips and I am sure you are right, but I want people to like and follow me for the contents, not my looks. I've seen a bunch of other people that attrackt crowds by posting pictures of them in a bikini or a daring dress. To be honest, that may work, but that's just not me. Or maybe I need to grow accustomed to the idea. Have you noticed that it's mostly girls who post pictures of themselves...
Good point. But emphasis on classy, elegant, appropriate pictures. To me , it just adds to the content and to your story. Just be you. Remember your topic is already provocative and daring and the title attracted people. The "idea" is just simple marketing. You could have the best product but if you can't attract people, your product will have no exposure and no one will know you. Agree wholeheartedly though, no "risque" pictures, but pictures that "leave something to the imagination" is nice.
Hi, thanks for your great insights. I admit that you are totally right. The reason I shy away is... well, the more pictures I post, the higher the odds that some1 (I know) will recognize me. Imagine the drama if my friends would find out through my Steemit post (directly or through someone they know who read it). Now tjat I think of it, it may not have been the smartest thing to post first and talk later. But I just needed to share my story. I mean, sometimes you just "need" to get something out of your system.
i hope they were clean
Let me make a prediction: they will find out everything and you will loose both friends, typical story
You are right: they will find out, because I will tell them. You are also wrong: the truth mostly leads to peace.
Wouldn't it be better if you tell them, rather than they find out..
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God Bless
Yes, that is absolutely the best.
Im on the edge of my seat!
Thank you!
a totally new story of the blue :D
Well, you are right it's not "new". I am sure I happens all the time. I just decided to share it :)
What are you favorite bars, clubs in Prague?
So the new friends from Steemit would know where to find you and inspire for more stories)
Eye catching story , good idea that you have.
nice to meet you.
Please follow me @patricksanlin and upvote. Thanks
Hey Patrick. Thank you for your nice reply!
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following you .
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Uh next! ;)
So you are not disappointed then ;-)
No because I didn't read it :D Sorry!
Oh boo! You should!
I did and it was good. Didn't you get a bunch of money since I resteemed it or is it my imagination? ;)
Hi, my post sure did attrackt a lot of attention all of a sudden. thank you! Love L.
OK not sure if it was me but good for you!
No disapointment here.
Hehe, thank you!
Have a good weekend!
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My twin brother and I had sex with the same girl, not at the same time. We are both still good friends with her. I was talking to her one day and said, "you appreciate how cool it is to have fucked twins right?" She said, "Oh yeah, I brag about it all the time." That made me happy.
Maybe she was being sarcastic :-) Girls don't usually brag about their sexual conquers :-)
Well, at least, I don't...
I brag it to my few close friends. ;) @unitedworld
That i can understand. Maybe I will too... Soon ;-)
can i be your close friend soon? :p
Sure. We can have many long talks!
Sweeeeet!
Lol you found me here, it's not appropriate to use other post as a chatroom. Let's see...
Yes i'm donning my stalker alert hat today :)
I don't mind you guys flirting here ;-) Go on!
It's actually you @unitedworld and @abh12345
I'm not jealous!
nice read. thanks @unitedworld
Thank you. I'm happy you like it.
Haha - if they don't know now they most certainly will in the very near future :o
Hey, yes you are right. That's why I need to tell them asap. Once I gathered the courage.
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Hey Ramesh. Thank you for your enthousiasm :-) Love, L.
I wish i had two friends to sleep with lololol
Aww. I'm sure you have 2 friends, though :-)
This post is great. Not because a beautiful women is writing about sex, no, because it felt like reading a novel. Please keep us updated. Your two male friends must be really mature. Not everybody can deal with such a situation. I wish you all the best and hope none of your male friends get jealouse if they find out.
Hey, thank you for your nice compliment :-)
I've yet to find out how mature the boys are.
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easy. i should create a fake girl account as well and post funny stories. easy money
I'm looking forward to it!
I know you are real, a guy would have all the juicy details. Good story, "L"!
Or perhaps I'm just really good at pretending to by a lady ;-)
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Was not a good idia .
Y will not have ANY friend.
Lust is not love .It is never work.
I wish y have good adalt women friend to talk befor y ACT on sex.
Hey Marina, you are right about lust not being love. But, in my view, desire is also different from lust. Lust is a primal instinct. Desire is something more emotional.
So i have recently encountered my high school sweethear, absolutly gorgeous girl. Anyway me and her stayed best friends after i went to military school and we just stayed really close friends for about 8 years. Well one day we get i guess a feeling that neither of us could over come and well it lasted a few months and it was the best few months of my life, but all good things have to come to a end and well now it messed up our relationship and we do not talk anymore.
I'm sorry to hear that. Though your story sounds a bit different from mine. In my case it is a one off thing only. I have no plans to repeat it or get into a fwb kind of situation.
Some of my best relationships have been friends with benefits. As along as you are honest and open about it, get tested for STDs, and/or practice safe sex, and set boundaries and not distance yourself after and make it weird there is nothing wrong with it. And you're not a HO unless you got paid for it.
Who cares what other people think, if they are not paying your bills, and won't be there for in your times of need, their opinions don't count.
As far as telling them about each other. I would suggest it so they don't think you only want to be with just them and get hurt. I was dating 3 girls and they all knew about each other. No lies.
Because of the honesty I'm still friends with 2 of them. I was friends with teh 3rd but she is no longer a friend due to her lack of consideration and games.
True, we shouldn't be bothered by what other people think, but that always affects me somehow. Maybe I am too self conscious.
Swigity!
I am proud of you. There are too many people judging these days. I believe most of them are simply afraid of the possibilities a life without firm moral rules would offer. Anyhow, my only suggestion is that in the future you don't keep your actions and desires secret from anyone. Be open about it, and don't apologize for what you truly want. If your friends do not understand or even worse if they judge you for it they no longer deserve to be your friends. Over time you will start to automatically attract the kind of people you really want to be around.
You are definitely right about the "being open" part. Thanks for sharing.
Interesting.
Thanks :)
The exact reasons why you decided to make this decision are not clear, but you must be careful .. This can get out of hand, can misinterpret your intentions and believe in other things more intense than just sex. Your sexual life you handle as you see fit but remember that you should not hurt others, it is not the right thing to do. If they agree that it's just sex, well, but if not, you should leave that far. These kinds of things often break good friendships by hurting succeptibilities. Good luck when you talk to them.
Thank you @jekramos. And don' t worry. I will handle this with enough care.
... now location matters here...
It will be a public location, without a bed and couch...
ls it denial or weakness?
It's respect
I mean if there's even a slight idea of a threesome you must face it not forget it.
Facing it doesn't imply engaging into it... And this has never been my plan, nor is it a future goal.
Of course facing it doesn't imply engaging into it, on the contrary it should develop your wisdom. Until we level up and control the sex drive we're all... Ho! Ho! Ho! 😁
Why a picture with a tear if it wasn't that bad of an experience? I mean come on, you should tell them so you can have a threesome with them. Could be an even greater experience.
Well the real test is how the friendships progress in the future. Yet you did your experiment. Good luck with the results. Lol :)
Thank you!
They'll tell each other. Don't worry. =)
That's exactly what I'm worried about...
there should be a lot more woman like you, sleeping with their friends^^
so: thumbs up
Good post.by this post, we can know many thing
Very good post and I'm glad that you have shared the story with us, you must be very satisfied and feel relieved after doing with your friends, I'm sure your boyfriend will feel the same way you feel, happy, comfort,.
You are lucky I like sarcasm. And I'm pretty sure, If I had a bf, that he would be very very happy :-)
If I am in position I will also feel like :)
Hi.. I will have to say.. your story was quite intriguing and made me want to read more - many people including myself has wondered and have had a fantasy of what you did would be like... thank you for sharing
All I would say is: don't let social conventions hold you back. Go, experiment, take a risk.
Interesting !😘
Thank you :)
Nice story'... So why you crying about!!!???
That's just the cover of my 'book' :)
Dont feel bad , i would say every girl i would slept with nearly is a friend,. or was at somepoint, im sure both your males friends also no , there mates after all.. The only warning advice i give is try not to develop emotional feelings towards these people , as bad as that sounds. because some one will end up getting hurt.. Peace
Hi, thank you for your advice!
Very innocent girl ,your story is very nice @sharoon likes you ,love you
Hi, thank you :)
Sorry for being too naive, but you just slept with your friends or did the ritual also.....
I will leave that to your imagination :-)
Hmm, OK, then I will just assume, you both laid naked, talked about your friendship and then slept!!
I am just starting to learn about steemit, so I am reading a wide range of posts to learn. Yours is very interesting. Thank you.
Thank you :-)
nice story
Excelente historia...
Thanks
Same as what the other person said about stopping the detail for the second encounter. I find this very interesting tbh! You just gotta keep exploring yourself as person to find who you truly are and to find what you truly want