Everyone is beautiful, and uniquely fashioned to function in a certain way. However, some people often get confused trying to know the difference between who they are, who they want to be, and who they are expected to be.
Understandably, what you make out of your own life is mostly factored by your relationships and dealings with people, which makes you think and act in a certain way, and your exposure to the environment you find yourself per time.
It is agreed that change is the only constant occurrence in human life. People change all the time, from bad to worse, good to better, bad to good and vice-versa, etc. But, changes with people do not happen abruptly. Whether it takes a fast or slow pace, it is not sudden. This is why who you are today is closely related to who you want to be tomorrow. So it is taken that whatever actions you take today is a huge determining factor of consequences you will encounter in future.
For who you are expected to be, the line is not so thin with who you are. In fact, it is not thin at all. Who you are might be a totally different person from who you are expected to be, and guess what? That's totally fine!
Everyone has a personality expected of them, but until you have completely understood and embraced who you are, you cannot do very well with who it is expected of you to be. You will be living someone else's life and even if you succeed in doing this, you will lack fulfillment.
It is important to note here though, that there are people whose own lives inspire you and you want to live just like them. This is not always a bad thing, but only when you've totally owned and lived your own life. If you lose sight of yourself in the quest to become someone else, you could make it but the happiness just might not last.
Pay attention to these people, they have their own uniquely patterned life activities that keep their lives aglow. If you do not develop yours, and begin adopting their own procedure, you will be borrowing strength from them, and abandoning yours, and this cannot give you the lasting life of fulfilment you desire.
This is to say, that these lives you admire are meant to inspire/motivate you to build your life to success, not abandon it and take theirs up. This is why many times, when you've reached that level you so insatiably longed for, you still do not really seem to fit into the class, or, you are not genuinely accepted in the class because you're still missing a part of you somewhere and no matter how hard you try, at this time, your life may be a fake. They are not bad people for this, you just went about it all wrong.
So think about it, if you can do so much with the strength they lend you, how much more can you accomplish if you have fully engaged your own? You will not only achieve your goal, but you will be admired and maybe even become an inspiration to people you once envied.
Baby sis was my inspiration today
Sometimes it is not a person's fault that they do not know where to draw the line between living their lives and living someone else's. So i guess this is the point where you introduce you to yourself. Ask yourself simple but very important questions in the school of knowing yourself. Questions like:
• Do i really love my style of dressing?
• Do i love the shows i attend?
• Do i feel comfortable walking and talking the way i do?
• Do i feel cherished in my friendships and are they good or bad influences?
• Do i love the sports i engage in or do i just want to be among the people who do?
• What kind of songs make me happy?
• What kind of people do i genuinely enjoy hanging out with?
• What are the things i consider good or bad things to do?
• What are things i used to love before that i don't love anymore, and why?
• Who are the people i'm living my life to prove a point to?
• Am i happy to be the person i see when i look in the mirror?
You can add other questions you might want to ask yourself. Whether the sincere answers you give yourself make you appear a good or bad person, accept and become it first, then carefully pick the things you're comfortable changing, and do!
#withsteemfromwakky
Nice write up.. I'm crushing on your kid sister already.. Connect ASAP
Lol... Thanks for reading.
Good write up and Wonderful pictures too. 😊
I'm honoured! Thanks for stopping by.