Too true my bro, we are raised to perceive success through the judgement of others; parents, teachers, general society (which is why when someone you first meet asks what do you do, the usual answer from people is their job title). With success comes judgement, because one has to be judged in order to be classed as successful - and that is where the struggle lies.
You are entirely right in what you say, to be happy is to be also be successful in life