I just finished making her up and she said I don't like my lips, you alway make my makeup so natural.
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That was what Ngozi said to me after I was done with her makeup, she has been a good customer for a long time now.
I felt she was being difficult to please, she doesn't get satisfied no matter how hard you try.
Scratch that I am wrong, allow me to explain how taking scritism has helped improve me.
Why do I need constructive criticism?
At times, we all need constructive criticism because it helps us become better people and improve in our work or attitude.
Sometimes we react differently to scritism when they come unsolicited, some persons are teacups, so fragile that they get shatter at the smallest dose of constructive criticism. Accepting constructive criticism is an important skill for us all as we grow into adulthood. Don't reject what you need to hear because you don't want to hear it.
We all need criticism because we are not perfect, we all make mistakes and for that reason everyone one needs constructive feedback.
So learn from the correction and avoid repeating the mistake.
- Of course it's one thing to ask for constructive criticism. But when it comes uninvited, that's another ball game. But because we have the ability to do better, we have the accept it.*
"Like the example I used earlier about my client, I felt bad when she told me she doesn't like her makeup. But I later corrected it and I was able to serve her better. I now ask my clients how they want their makeup, what lip colour they want.*
*So next time someone ( your boss, your friend, husband, wife, sister parent) criticises you, here is what to do to feel better:"
Listen
*Try not to be defensive (I am a victim here) instead learn."
Try not to interrupt the person when they are talking. And don't respond angrily, saying something you would later regret.
Sometimes the person may say it rudely or with a harsh tune, focus on the message not the messenger.
You might even get tempted to point out the flaw of your critic, try not to do that. There are usually truth to criticism.
- I sometimes get angry and say 'i know, I know ' when hubby gives me a correction.But when I really listen to him and apply his advice, there are much better results.*
Keep a balanced view of yourself.
The fact that you were criticised doesn't make you a failure.it just means you are human and you have flaws, like everyone the person correcting you also needs correction every now and then.
Set a goal to improve. Resolve to work on the flaw that was brought to your attention. Create an action plan, and monitor your progress.
We all learn from each other, just like the holy book says iron sharpen iron. Constructive criticism is that tool that can sharpen you.
So don't feel bad, don't feel like a failure just accept it and get better.
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