What a Father told his Daughter a Day before her Wedding.

My Daughter, Tomorrow you will stop bearing my name. You will be happily married to the man you love. Don't miss me because I have fulfilled my purpose, it's now time for you to start fulfilling yours.
From your Childhood, I have raised you well by the grace of God but before you say I do, there are some few things I will tell you about living with a man and being married.
Do you remember when you wrote your WEAC and JAMB exams? You came to me and I gave you 20,000 naira for the registration, well even though I gave it to you the money was not mine. I know you always thought I paid the fee. The truth was that I was broke.... but your mom gave me the money to give you. She could have given it to you but she decided to give it to me to give you.
Support your husband. Some times things may go wrong...He may be frustrated. Even though he acts tough. In his mind he has the fears... He fears you may not value him anymore because he has fallen. That's the time to get behind him and support him!
The best way to show your husband you love him is to respect him. You may argue with him, you may disagree but at the end of the day, let him know he has your respect. Do you remember the day I screamed at your mother? what did she do? She was quiet.
Do you also remember the day she screamed at me? What did I do? I was also quiet. My daughter learn to be quiet some times when your husband is angry. When one person is hot, the other should be cool. If two are always screaming at the same time, that is how big problems start in a marriage.
The first thing to know about your husband is his favorite food! If he has more than one then keep them at the back of your mind. Don't let him ask for it, always prepare it for him.
There was a day your mom caught me touching a woman's hand ✋ affectionately. I was lust after that woman but I was not yet cheating on your mom. When she saw us, she didn't fight the lady, she left us quietly, I was afraid of going home because all hell will break loose. But when I got home she said nothing, she saved me my food. Guilt was taking control over me, I started begging. From that day I never looked at a woman twice. Who knows if she had fought and threatened me.... maybe I could have ran away from the fight into the arms of that lady. Sometimes silent brings better solution than fight.
Forget those romantic novels you read when you were 21. Remember those Indian and American movies? Also remember those sweet Nollywood films on African Magic. Forget them! Don't expect your marriage life to be that way. Life is different from fiction.
The last thing I want to tell you, do you remember how you were born? After our wedding, things were tough and your mom had to do two jobs to support us. I was working as well. I get home 6pm while she comes back 8pm tired. But when we get to bed..... She will not refuse me my night food. That was how you were born. Don't form the habit of refusing your husband his night food. Be a good wife!!!
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