Anger is a normal and healthy emotion. However, this can be a problem if you have trouble keeping it under control.
Most anger problems are caused by interactions with other people. Generally, these anger arousing interactions are with significant others, especially partners.
We are all angry at our partners from time to time. For most couples, anger itself is not the problem. What become problematic is how partners deal with their anger and how much they care about their partner.
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Try these simple tips to help you minimize the destructive effects of anger on you and your relationship:
Recognise your anger signs and triggers
Your anger could be triggered by specific things, our partner’s words or behaviours, environmental factors, or even relatively unimportant, insignificant and stupid things that have absolutely no meaning at all. It does not matter what triggers your anger. Ask yourself these questions:
When do I get angry? ...........................................
Where do I get angry?...........................................
What triggers my anger?.......................................
How do I respond to those triggers?.....................
How do I act when I get angry?............................
Recognize and Consider your partner's feelings and emotion.
Consider the other emotions involved. Anger is a secondary feelings/emotion that often hides primary emotions.
Examples of primary emotions are feeling sad, hurt, afraid/frightened or rejected. Anger is often a defense against the feeling of vulnerability.
Practice active listening.
Partners often continue to be angry because they do not think they are being listened to or taken seriously. Use active listening techniques to make sure your partner feels heard and repeat what you have heard to confirm that you have understood and affirm the feelings of your partner.
Calm yourself emotionally.
You can successfully calm down by listening to relaxing music, using affirmations, counting from one to ten gives you the time to cool down, so you can think more clearly and overcome the impulse to attack.
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I guess its just human nature, to some people.Lovely post @evelyniroh. Though i've noticed over time, that these guides and practices are easier said, than realistically accomplished. Sometimes, there are not enough advises or anger management therapies that can deal with some outbursts; hence the frequent cases physical abuses experienced in relationships.
When I'm angry i just walk away
I walk or take a walk
If Im very angry i can walk for 30mins
Just to exert all the energy
If i have some heafset in my ears then fantastic
Very useful - I'll keep these in mind, as I have several friends who come to me to complain every time they have a fight with their partners!
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