Susan and Andy where friends from secondary school, they started dating and now wedding bell is ringing. All of us were so happy for them both, because they've been friends for long, they have both talked about where they will live as couple, how many kids they wanted, wedding hall and even food items were purchased.
Few days to their big day Andy called off the relationship,Susan was devastated. She went through the motions of daily life, but she felt numb with shock. She became mentally and physically exhausted.
Have you ever been served breakfast, i mean breakup how did you cope!
Well that's not their real name but that's a real life story of a friend.
Why does it have to Hurt this much?
If you have ever had a heartbreak you will understand why it hurts that much. You will feel like you can't ever move on, expecially if the relationship is a long time one.
Breakup is one of the most traumatic experience one can ever imagine, some persons refer to breakup as a mini death. I guess that because love is as powerful as death.
Going through breakup have stages and this stages depends on how long the relationship have lasted.
**It's can't be over, he will change his mind ina day or two. That's the Denial stage.
How can he do this to me? I can't stand him that's the angry stage.
No one will ever love me, I am unlovable that's the depression stage.
I am going to be alright, although the heartbreak hurts but I will be finethat the acceptance stage**
Like I said this stages depends on how long the relationship lasted.
Well I am not writing this to talk about the stages and heartbreak, I am writing this post because shit happens so when they do one needs to be prepared.
In other to cope with a heartbreak here are some few suggestions that have proven effective based on experience.
Allow yourself to grief there is nothing wrong with having a good cry it helps relieve your pain so I recommend crying. Don't try to act strong.
Take care of your physical health: eat enough nutritious food not junks, sleep and exercise.
Keep busy: keep doing the things that makes you happy, go out with friends, develop a skill. Don't isolate yourself.
After you have time to heal, take a close look at what happened in your past relationship.
Yes,the relationship you were involved in didn’t become what you had hoped. But remember this: In the middle of a storm, it’s easy to focus on the dark sky and the pouring rain. Eventually, though, the rain stops and the sky clear.
It's better to have a broken relationship than a broken home.