I happened on this documentary by accident. I hadn't heard of Lily Philips and her unorthodox (to put it mildly) little OnlyFans stunt. Apparently, the 23-year-old OF star ran a sort of project to have sex with 100 men in the course of a single day, which she then filmed and put out presumably on her OnlyFans channel.
The documentary itself was quite telling about this girl's mental welfare - both the guy filming it and the comment section seemed understandably concerned about her mental health and speculated as to the level of dissociation that would make you do that. And it is, indeed, quite a fascinating subject, not to mention a deeply tragic one. But what seems far more interesting to me is,
who's watching this kind of content?
Personally, I had serious doubts when the girl cheerfully asserted that this had always been a dream of hers. Really? Getting fucked by 100 guys on the clock? Rigid, tedious, impersonal? Who the fuck has such dreams? Worse, who dreams about seeing a young woman they (presumably) like to an extent go through that?
I can't imagine anything less enticing. It's something so ugly, so violent and debasing. And while I do understand there's people with extreme tastes out there, this isn't really marketed as such. It's not a fetish thing or a kink thing. It's just a sex thing, and it seems to rhyme with the increasingly impersonal and dissociated way we (as a society) view sex.
It's no longer an act of connection or enjoyment. I don't imagine it affords the viewer even the falsified pleasure of regular pornography. It's just a marathon. A stunt. A feat of endurance. How many men can one woman take before she breaks?
Only, who are these men looking to break women? And how long can we function if we're starting to look into such perverse ways of breaking each other apart?
There's something deeply frightening to that thought because it betrays a much deeper disconnect. Logically, if you're lonely and horny, you go on some porn website and masturbate to someone getting railed and appearing, at least, to enjoy it, yeah? We can all understand the logic behind couples, or even menage a something pornography as presumably the viewer imagines themselves in the midst of it. But this isn't really that. And unless there's a market for fantasizing you're sitting in a waiting room to fuck a stranger for five minutes right after another stranger, and before yet another, it signals something's gone wonky in our cultural understanding of sex.
The only way such a video could be arousing is if we've stripped all the human connection out of a sexual encounter. It's no longer the cumulation of desire and tension, but merely the ugly sum of its parts. How many pants, grunts, cocks, and so on.
We are dealing with a mating crisis in our Western world. Fewer and fewer young people are having sex, connection has become increasingly interchangeable and superficial, and we have started viewing our bodies as mere hulks of meat. Together, these issues combine to create this worrying depersonification on sex that affects not just women (who are more likely to become the victim of objectification and atrocious sexual violence), but also the future of our species.
And I don't even mean that on a fertility, birth rate level. It's not just fewer people are having sex, so less babies. It's also on the off-chance when we do have sex, we're doing it with a stranger and have built so many walls around ourselves, have been trained so well to present ourselves as meaningless meat-packages that the experience leaves us even more void and isolated.
Leave it for long enough, that leads to societal breakdown, because we're failing to connect meaningfully with one another. We've taken kinship and authenticity and replaced it with digital anonymity. We've taken the very real, very beautiful soul-to-soul connection that can happen during sex and turned it into a commodity. Your body needs to be fucked the same way the socks need washing and the trash needs taking out. It's a chore, but no longer a pleasure that runs deeper than that brief, still guilt-ridden climax.
We worry quite a lot about the future of our species when children aren't being made. And that's a deeply worrying fact. But what exactly does humanity look like when we no longer view one another as human beings in the first place?
It isn't appealing at all. There seems to be a contest going in that "industry" of bigger and bigger numbers in a single day.
Sanity. Thank you. I wonder what in the hell that's supposed to prove or what dark, tenebrous desire it might appease.
The world is well on its way to a dark hole, if you ask me.
Two things I see with that stunt of hers (which I read about a few weeks back):
One, we have become incredibly depersonalized. Not just in terms of sex, but in terms of humanity. I see people sitting at the same table texting each other rather than talking. The line between a VR sim and actual life is blurring. The Internet may be a good "babysitter" in some respects, but it lacks authentic connection and the warmth f-2-f interaction.
Two, our dopamine receptors have — in many cases — become so overused/addicted that it takes sensationalism to get attention. Look around, even in "harmless" spaces... it takes clickbait to get anyone to notice you.
Maybe there's a third: the "middle ground" is vanishing. The idea of "doing well" is lost... you either become a mega star, or you're a loser. You have to do "a thing" (like having sex with 100 guys) or nothing at all.
I agree, unfortunately, on both counts! Especially the second - we are so surrounded by stimulants everywhere you look, we're like rats in an experiment. I don't think we can stop entirely this move towards a more digitalized life, but I don't understand how (though it's still so early days in that process) it's turned to such shit already. It's like we're purposefully using tech to unleash this horrible, vicious side of ourselves.
Sadly, most of the original aspects of "Netiquette" have been long lost... in particular "don't say anything to someone online that you wouldn't say to their face."
I think it's turning to shit because we're sinking to the lowest common denominator, rather than reaching for the highest common denominator.
Lily Philips and the mass rape of hundreds of thousands of UK children by Muslim rape gangs are dualistic reflections of a very sick British society.
Maybe Lily is just a logical reaction to the UK government facilitating the mass rape of its girls and protecting the perpetrators.
After all, what she does is basically authorised gang rape, but at least she gets paid for it.
The poor girls of Rotherham and up to 50 other UK cities got no compensation or fame.
Thanks, that was quite a comprehensive take on a subject that's been puzzling me for some time - the how and why of these terrible things happening (and being covered up, to boot). Alas, it's not even just the UK, Germany and other Northern countries have been hushing up similar scandals for years. Terrifying stuff.
out there things in order to feel like we're real, not just to the public eye, but in our own lives. Maybe regular sex has become something of the past, only for uninteresting ghosts. So much to unpack in this whole thing. Thanks again for the link!This seems to be a rising obsession of our modern-day culture. And I imagine, at least, it's not just among immigrants. I think that's fascinating (and frightful, of course). Perhaps as @denmarkguy pointed out above, we're desperate to do increasingly more shocking and
This stunt should serve as a wake-up call to society—proof that this kind of behavior and the underlying mental illness fueling it have become disturbingly normalized. My first reaction upon hearing about this story was sadness, not just for her but for the lasting consequences this will have on her life and the lives of everyone involved.
I saw on X that another OF "model" is already planning to outdo this stunt, which speaks volumes about the race to the bottom we’re witnessing. Just the other day, I came across a story about a registered nurse here in the US who was caught grinding against disabled patients and live-streaming it for her audience.
If someone were deliberately trying to destabilize and degrade a civilization, I can't imagine a more effective tool than the modern smartphone—combined with zero rules, no inhibitions, and a culture that rewards the most depraved behavior.
That's so messed up. I keep wondering, where has common decency gone? That there would be perverse outliers is something I can reasonably understand, but who are these hoards watching this or wanting and encouraging this kind of content? Are people's lives so dissatisfying that they sit around and think 'you know what I'd like to see...'?
You're very right there - the normalizing of this sort of "stunt" is worse than the act itself. That this sort of thing could even be considered an option among the many things a young woman might do as part of her metier is terrifying, because we're eventually gonna tire of this. And what next? Or we could slingshot into a world of repression and conservatism worse than any dystopia.
It's sickening really. How it is being almost normalised, at least that is what I think is going on. There is nothing normal about it. we have to remember that everything that we are being shown, is part of something bigger. A way in which to dethatch us even further from our humanity, so that what is happening comes as less of a shock, when it is revealed. xxx
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